Save and behave 2023

Well done mate on not gambling and the Gamban registration.  I am pretty sure that you can extend the Gamstop?  It doesn't just stop after 5 years you have to actively opt-in to gambling again.  Most companies won't allow you.

Don't take my word for it though.  I would contact Gamstop though and say you want to extend your gambling ban now so you are protected beyond July.

re the pay review.  I got underpaid at work for 4 years.  Colleagues left because of it and went to higher paying jobs.  I stuck it out chipping away at management and finally got rebranded in my role, with more pay than I originally asked for.  Not life changing tbh but more than I asked.......  What I am saying is don't give up the fight, the second they see you will accept being underpaid they will consider it a win.

hi the bean..... thanks for popping by..... yes regretting sending the email about the pay now think i deserve more than minimum wage...... although i know that when the other porter complained about the wages and left he didnt get anything offered to him...... its just a tight company i guess..... but all in all im happy at work and money isnt everything...... would be nice to pay debts back quicker but for example im still able to save so should be happy...... it's just grass is allways greener....

My dads team chelsea played in champs league tonight last 16 and won and are now thru to the last 8 ..... my dad must be really happy.... so im happy with that.....

Tomo is the spurs game..... we are 1 down at mo so really need to be on the front foot...... come on u spurs!!!!!

All the best adam xx

oh dear what a terrible night of football....... spurs got knocked out by ac millan......they didnt even get more than 2 shots on target.....will concentrate on league now.....need to get fourth and prob a new manager....

all the best adam 

Hi Adam,

I just want to say I think it's brilliant that you asked for better pay. 100% maximum respect. I wish you didn't regret it, asking for more than minimum wage is not an unreasonable request. Sorry it didn't get you the result you hoped for but I still think it was important that you told them how you feel.

f x

hi freda xxxxxxx thanks for popping by..... yes i agree ...... although ive said im happy with the minimum saying that id like a pay review in the first place will hopefully show that i could do with more......... went out for a curry tonight..... it was a michael jackson tribute....... it was amazing..... lovely to be out with friends to see the king of pop tribute....

Ill get a reasonably early night now and rest up over the weekend fresh for a new week next week...

All the best adam xx

Here i am..... one more day tomo of my short holiday break.... This break from work ive seen my team get knocked out of champs league oh dear but oh well on to next seasons hopefully.... Ive relaxed and slept well each day.... I've been for a curry with close friends and seen a michael jackson tribute that was up there with some amazing performances ive seen..... ive then been to town and bought some dvds and a new coat..... (that i love and will last)..... Then today ive been to town again and bought lunch.... been to get a coffee.... and then came back here with friends and cooked one dinner......  Ive also signed up to a new gym that is opening in town..... its a pure gym and was 30 pounds joining fee and first month then 14.99 a month after..... theres no contract so supposibly its easy to freeze, cancell and re join at ur leisure...... Ive also done plenty of steps workout and a joe wicks this eve......Really really want to get in shape this year so as you can see im trying everything to give me a headstart.......I think the exercise part is going very very well and if i stuck to healthy eating habbits the weight would be flying off.... So ill try this new gym when it opens over the summer and see where it takes me.... Plan of action for tomo is to buy some mince, peppers, carrots to go with my domeo sauce and frozen veggies....... for a healthy end of this holiday and start of next week...

I would like to echo stace comments tonight on another thread...... I really do love the gamcare site..... It gives me the chance to have a diary to put my plans down, to vent, to create objectives, to get advice, to get sympathy, to see things differently and overall to get the support that ive o so needed over the years......

It really is brilliant so to the funding it had got to implement it and keep it runnig to the moderators who advise everyday and make it their sole purpose to help those o soo in need of help I THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart.

You know you are special and it really has helped massively.

I came here desperate to stop, desperate to curb my vices, desperate to find finacial security, desperate that i couldnt find a way to stop...... but you showed me the way forward...... I took one step forward and three steps back over and over again and couldnt see the way... but you stayed supportive throughout untill the moment in life where i got it right..... Each step i was rewards wth praise, each step back i was consoled, and this took years by the way and i was still welcomed every night with help from here.

i really do love gamcare xxxx

back to  work tomo, had a lovely break.....

Another day.... back at work agian today.....was a pretty ok day..... nothing crazy happened.... managed 11k steps today..... then came back and cooked some toast (lovely) then cooked bolognese with lots of veggies.... also spoke to people at work about my new gym membership..... really is a great deal..... loving it.

Came on chat at 8 and helped some newbies with some tips and chatted..... and now im here just before bed..... slept well over the course of my holiday barring saturday night where i struggled and was still awake at 6am.... but it is what it is every now and then everyone sturggles with sleep.

After my weekend expense im thinking ill have a quiet couple of weeks.....ive been offered overtime thursday night but im usually quite tired after thursdays as its my busiest working day...... but ill see how i feel and extra 50 quid could be just what the doctor ordered come next month.....

All the best Adam

Already on the middle of the week.... life is flying by.....onwards... trying to not spend much rest of this month....onto next month.... overtime tomo night.....catcha later

All the best Adam xx

Evening lovely diary, heres is a safe place for me to deposit my thoughts and look for advice..... all advice welcome.....

This week has been tiring and ive needed to recharge over this weekend to get back to my best pysical and mental capacity....... with that in mind i worked thursday night till ten pm which is really good for learing new things and for overtime pay but i was left wired and couldnt sleep that night and so went to work on friday and was a shell of my usual self.  

I got thru friday then went to bed and slept for 2 hours then woke and ate then went back to bed and decided to sleep rather thn going on chatroom.  i slept from 8pm - 9am then 930am - 1pm really really helped, really helps me to recharge sleep is my friend.

Then a friend came over today we played xbox and he had a few beers.  Then tonight i watched a box set then im here now and im going to sleep well again tonight a fully recharge again.

Then a different friend is coming over tomo at 3 pm and we will play xbox then ill get another early night altho i usually dont sleep as well on a sunday but we will see.

Evening dear diary.....  This week has flown by again one minute its the getting thru monday feeling, next its hump day and feeling more optomistic, then today is thursday so getting towards the weekend.....however im feeling pretty poorly, so ill get an early night tonight and hope to wake feeling better..... if not its a day off work for me and resting and recharging towards next week.

All the best adam xx

Evening..... thought i had covid with the cough that i have but thankfully ive tested negative.....

Been a tough few days..... been off work friday and i think ill still be off monday..... really poorly.

night....

All the best adam xx

Evening diary..... feeling almost human again after what has been a tough past week..... thought i had covid but thankfully it was just a nasty cough.....slept well past few nights......going to have one more day off work tomo then hopefully be well enough to go back on friday.

Just drinking some apple juice felt the need for some fruit again.

weighed myself today and im 88.9kgs

i was 14 stone six in january when i started my diet.

now that makes me 7 pounds lighter since then.....

pretty pleased with that.

Want to make that the starting point of building a healthier body..... that was and is the aim for this year.

Main goal 13 stone or just under..... that would make me in the healthy part of the bmi and not overweight.... i am quite stocky now so i think 13 stone on the mark and id be a very healthy individual.

Still coughing today but its soo much better than it was....oooo to be well again ey.

All in all everything going swimmingly..... Theres a flat for sale on my road and ive thought about raising some finances and buying it to rent out to give me some more money thru retirement.... but ive also then thought about the time i spent looking after the flat when renting it out and the risk involved as you never whats going to happen with the market...... So im going to aim to pay off the remainder that i owe on my flat and then just save in isas for retirment and maybe invest more into my pension (which might go up or down) then i should be ok in retirement..... The safe boring option is what i go for nowadays.

All the best Adam xx

Feeling like i might try and brave work tomo..... dont want to rush back but they will need me next week so could be an idea to get a day in tomo to ease into it?

Not sure...still coughing

Still not feeling great.... dr pohned me today and signed me off for another week..... i feel a break from work and time to rest up and get back to full energy is what is need.  I walked 100 metres to shop today and felt completely knackered so im really not full of the energy i will need to go back to my physical job.  

With this in mind ill defo have monday off if im not feeling well still and go from there.  The number of times everyone in my team have been off sick and ive been only one at work and cancelled holidays to cover them in recent years......now its my time to recharge so ill be having some more days off i think.

Now im going to plant my flowers soon and ive bought another camelia to plant in my garden..... ill do this soon as then they will grow for the summer months when im really looking forward to resting and sunbathing in my garden....i really do love this flat and the independence and stability its given me.

I think this time off work has seen me look at life more and appreciate what i have..... long will this new found pleasure and appreciation stay and negative thoughts well i hope they dont return (they naturally will at some point) but lets hope i see the light and what i have in these moments.

The thought of gambling is less and less frequent with every month that goes by....just passed the 1200 mark... lets seee 365, 730, 1095, 1460, yes next target 1460 4 year mark...

This year is the year where im looking at my physical health not monetary health.... to be physically trim is hard work but im slowly getting there....if not this year fair enough but ill work towards this continually and even when i reach my 13 stone target be that in a couple of years its my final goal so it wont be an easy one....once if done that ill finally say im achieving everything i want in life for as stress free, physically and mentally easy life....one that will hopefully god willing be a long well enjoyed fruitfull existence.

To the mod that is reading this to confirm its fine to be on the forum....say thank you to your team mates as gamcare really has helped me and many many others turn their lifes around....im in no doubt its saved my suicidal events, relationships, families and has been my rock.

Keep doing what your doing.

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#All the best Adam xx