Posted: Sun 18 May 2014 04:05:02
Hi been lurking on here for a while and feel I should contribute.
My name is jond and I have recently turned 33 and I am a compulsive gambler.
I have been gambling pretty much flat out for 15 years but decided enough was enough on 10/04/14 and have been clean eveR since.
I have tried stopping many times before before but this time I feel something has clicked and I feel I can do it this time.
I have been reading this forum daily and have taken great inspiration from every story good + bad and the last 37 days of no gambling have been heaven.
I think the penny dropped when after years of looking myself in the mirror my younger brother of 30 who I have recently taken on to work with me broke down and blamed me for his own gambling / drug problem. I see him in me so much and that P****s me off because I hate myself.
I also have 2 young children and I couldn't bare the thought of them living like this. I thought I need to set an example to my brother and my children.
My addiction typically started on the slots in the boozer and then escalated to going up the motorway services everyday for a couple of years sometimes I would drive 50 miles just to play a fruity. Looking back I reckon I even went up there on Christmas Day . Then the FOBTs came about and BANG all I thought about was numbers 11,17,29......... Etc morning noon and night. Wake up skip work feed 20s into a machine, I took part in illegal activity for years all down the pan. Then I discovered poker and I feel in love with the game and I could talk forever but in the end it's all BS.
I've been with my mrs for 9 years and have 2 beautiful children and I couldn't have put up with the s**t I have put her through I would have left. Anyway I could waffle on forever . Peace
More to come....
Hi
well done in trying. I too have been a problem gambler for 14 years. I don't want it to last a life time as im not too old. It takes too much too fast. Good that you said enough is enough with belief.
You sound for real. Your post helped me as im in my early days at the moment and I need to find something real in my recovery.
Hi
Still going strong and not gambled since 10/04/14.
Reading this forum everyday gives me inspiration to continue with my journey for a happier gambling free life for myself and those close to me.
Everyday I wake up with a good feeling that I'm going into work to earn money for me and my family and not the bookies. It feels good !
Together we can beat this curse !
Thanks johnd
Been struggling a bit today really miss playing poker, it's been nearly 2 months since my last bet and I thought it was getting easier. Poker is my poison and I really love the game.
Hopefully I won't cave in.
Luckily I'm not in debt after 15 years of gambling, probably due to the fact I quit roulette 18 months ago and I earn good money as a plumber. But still I consistently lose upto 1k a month playing crazy games of poker where my whole bankroll is on the table.
I'm actually not a bad player but I can never win because I can never stop !!
I'll just keep taking each day as it comes I suppose.
thanks for reading !
John good to read about your recovery, keep going sir. I've had a terrible time of it lately but I'm determined to move forward. You may miss the poison but just think about the good stuff that's going on - your recovery is actually a continuous journey towards greater wealth, greater opportunities and renewed self-respect; not a bad swap for the loss of money, self-hatred and loss of opportunities that the posion gives you. Poison is a good choice of word by you I think! Take care, Jim
Hi I'm back !
I managed to abstain from all gambling related activities for 100 days but slowly started swapping the gam care forum for the poker forum.
I have probably blown 1500 in the last month on poker, football, slots and roulette.
Enough is enough I'm back on the wagon from today !!!! I was doing so well and now I'm back to square one again. It felt so good not gambling and I felt in full control of my life and I want that feeling back.
One day at a time x
Hi John,
Nothing like a relapse to really get you thinking about how good life gamble free can be eh? Been there too many times myself too, but you know from the 100 days that you can go down the route of not gambling, and the good feelings that come with that will return.
Steel yourself and push through the first few weeks, and eventually gambling will drop out of being a normal part of your routine. You can do this, and as you've mentioned before with a young family you've got the perfect motivation right there.
All the best
Ryan
Sorry to hear of your slip mate,i too have two young children and decided enough is enough.going to 1 g.a meeting a week the now which is helping me big time.all the best mate take care.well
done for making it back here 😉
stopping gambling is tough
staying stopped is even tougher
you might need more support / help if you keep relapsing?
give it some thought
tri
Thanks for the support guys it helps a lot.
Good day 1 for me feeling positive. Did a hard days graft and went out for a Chinese with my dad.
Confessed to my mrs about the money I'd blown which is a weight off my mind. But now I have passed the buck onto her where now i have a clear head but she is P..sed off. Selfish in a way but was just being honest.
Here's too day 2 cheers
Well done for not giving up as being honest x i don't doubt that alot of us have had hiccups along the road to freedom but the important thing is your here and trying.
good luck and best wishes for another gamble free day tomorrow.
Laura x
Back at day one AGAIN !!! 21/10/14. This time for good. Sometimes I feel that I need to hit rock bottom before I can start recovery again.
So last night I lost 500 that is meant to pay bills etc and smashed my laptop into pieces and threw it in the bin ( 4th time I have smashed a laptop up).
I have also self excluded from the casino.
I'm am trying to start my own business at the moment so money is tight and I am just making things worse by gambling. I need to make a clean break and concentrate on the important things in life.
I am also going to distance myself from gambling friends and start going to the gym.
Thanks for reading and good luck to everyone on their own journeys !
Hi John,
Welcome back.
Don't be too hard on yourself, and well done for coming back on here.
I wish you all the very best on your recovery,
Suzanne xx
Good Luck with your recovery.
You touched on something there though which I can relate to , I have certain friends who I grew up with in similar gambling circles , I must admit when im with one particular friend we seem compelled to gamble on the roulette when we are out having a few "quiet beers" im hoping to steer well clear of them but certain circles of friends do influence you.
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