When does it end? When do u reach that point where u finally feel like progress is being made. I love being clean from gambling for almost 8 months now but I am really struggling with the lack of finances I still have.
I bust my a**e off at work 45 hours a week and at the end of each month i am left with so little to get through each month after I have paid out all my outlays.
Does anyone else feel like this? I would give anything to earn some extra cash for my kids, I have a baby on the way in 2 months and feel like I have nothing to give them when they come into the world and it really hurts.
First of all, give yourself a big pat on the back as that is outstanding progression. I understand you miss the extra cash but surely you have extra cash from not actually gambling anymore. You’ll be able to give you children much more. Your full attention and love which you would not be able to if you were gambling! Keep up the good work man
I have some but not much, it covers my budget for food and my fuel for the month but come end of month have nothing left. I haven't been able to take my fianceГ© on a date since before Christmas which upsets me because we used to do a monthly date night.
My parents have been kind enough to postpone my repayments to them for my car until after me and my fianceГ© have our baby. They are also willing to lower payments when i start again to try and give me a little respite.
I just want to finally catch a proper break it is so frustrating working so hard and having so little to show for it each month.
Hi
The ideal situation is to pay back money over a longer period of time.
Often because of guilt shame regret we try to pay money back thinking it will heal the pains.
Healing pains comes from working our recovery is slow baby steps. Paying back to quickly often leads to more pains more fears and going back to our addiction.
The recovery program helps us understand that our progress is about healing nurturing and healing from the pains of our past.
For me being clean and obstaining from my unhealthy gambling was my main focus.
In time I would understand that my addictions and obsessions indicated that I had certain emotional triggers.
If you are struggling with the lack of finances I still have you may be trying to pay back far to quickly.
The recovery program helps us fulfill our needs, our wants and in time our goals.
The gambling was an escape also an adrenaline rush due to pains fears and frsutrations.
When I was gambling was I hurting my self.
Is that in any way healthy for me and my family.
When I was gambling was I filled with fears all of the time.
Is that in any way healthy for me and my family.
Once we abstain from unhealthy habits we have much more to give our family than just manoey and material things.
Healing Love and peace to every one.
Dave L
AKA Dave of Beckenham
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