I sit writing this as I'm flooding my eyes with tears, I need help and I need it soon! I dont get any of this... I know gambling is an addictive as is alcohol and drugs, I'm not stupid but why do CGs have some a manipulative, selfish behaviour. Last year by boyfriends gambling got really bad when he kept asking me for money and I being a mug would give it to him because I loved him and I honestly thought he loved me too and maybe that time would be different. I borrowed 10k from different family members which he spent all on gambling, Saying he only does it so we can go out and do things together! He then said that if he had 5k all in one go he would stop, so I made up a load of lies to my parents, they got a loan out to give me which i gave to him, he put it all online, got it up to 19k and lost it all!! apparently this was chasing back 20k and he promised me a million times over, 20k and he would block himself from all the sites, just stick to football bets (Major footy fan) and save that 20k... Literally two days after i have got the 20k from another loan, he has spent 6k even though we made rules which he said he would stick to. I'm actually furious and I cant take this another more, I just want to run away, to another country and just go into hiding. I now have to pay £50k debts back to my family and he gets what he wanted all along. I just scared that he only ever wanted me for my money and actually has no love for me! Whenever i try and talk about it, he always says you're stressing me out and that makes me want to gamble. I have my own issues and I don't need this! Right now there is only one way out and thats a permanent option i do not want to take!.
​Sorry for the rant! I give up!
He is being abusive toward you & you must get away from him as he's caused a real mess for you.
If he's not recognising he has an issue & not seeking treatment for his gambling addiction then there's nothing you can do really, they have to want to fix themselves.
I'd say you need to maybe get some counseling for yourself because it sounds like you have some complex issues between you & the relationship is very toxic.
Take care of yourself.
Hey. ..sorry to read your sad story...id advuse you to ring the helpline...they'll support you ...you can't cope or carry on like this alone....
Hi FHan679
Please do give us a call on the helpline 0808 8020 133. You don't have to go through this alone.
Best wishes
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Hi
You have done he right thing coming on here as it looks like everything has spiralled way out of control for you. It is a near on impossible task to try and tackle this on your own now. Please take advice from posts above and ring Gamcare helpline. They will kindly advise you well on what to do next and you will feel better for talking to someone. Don't ever be afraid to post on here as this is the place to make you feel you are definitely not on your own. Good luck and take care.
I was in your position not too long ago, and I used gamcare counselling for myself. It really helped, made me much stronger to deal with it all emotionally. I hope you find the strength to deal with this, you are not alone x
Hi,
Am very sad to hear your story. I hate to sound harsh but maybe you would be better getting yourself out of this toxic situation. No one with any respect for their partner gets them to borrow money like that from from family. He is using you. And then telling you that your stressing him out when you mention it. You need to ring the helpline, get yourself some counselling, move on. Try and sort the debt out as best you can, you didn't spend any of the money...it is his debt. It makes it difficult that it is through your family. I am so so sorry to say this, but I would never ever borrow that kind of money off my familr or any money for someoe to gamble with...You have changed your relationship with them. You need some serious help, the help is availble..but you need to step out of that toxic situation, cause as long as your willing to borrow money, he will keep gambling it.
Take care.
Julie
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