Hi all,
I've been reading quite a lot on here over the last few days as my partner of 5 years has had issues with CG. It's only ever been on and off not an every day thing but it's still a huge problem for him and me as anytime he gets himself straight after the last one, he promises he'll never do it again and it's me that ends up suffering financially too!
I asked him to leave the last time I found out about the last gambling spree as I had had enough as the relationship was pretty much dead anyways.. but now I wonder if all the other problems between us were related to his gambling addiction too?
I guess what I am trying to ask is does it/can it cause the gambler to become detached emotionally and sexually from their partner?
I suppose I am now attempting to work out if the relationship is worth saving at all, as I can see from the reading on here it's going to huge challenge to move forward from this.
Thanks
Hi,
My partner has a gambling problem and his seems to be on and off every few months, but mainly because he gets caught.
The moments when hes been gambling I've now noticed he does become very distant from me, emotionally and sexually. He's often very angry and anxious, which I've noticed when he's gambled and keeping it from me. From my experience it does affect our relationship, which makes it very difficult.
I hope this helps
Thanks for your reply natnat, it helps. When I found out about this latest one, I found out he'd been hiding it for months. I think it all kinda matches up time wise, but it doesn't really help me clear my mind of all the issues.
Just wish I knew what the right thing to do was...
It's difficult, I've just found out my partner has gambled again and I really don't know what to do anymore. I've supported him through this for 5 years but I am struggling. Our relationship is normally good until it happens again, I've helped everywhere I possibly can but they have to want to help themselves and that's where I get stuck as he won't
My partner promises it is the last time - though I cant believe that right now as I have heard that too many times already.
I want to believe him and do believe he wants to be rid of it - I just don't know if I can allow myself to be hurt like this again. I'm so sorry yours doesn't feel like he wants to help himself. and please don't take this the wrong way but I take great comfort in knowing I am not alone xx
I'm the same I want to believe but I just can't. It's just the same every time, and the lying really hurts me.
And no worry I take comfort in it too x
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