My husband relapsed in February after 3 years. I have since asked him to leave ? he’s been staying at his mums since & hasn’t stopped gambling.
I’ve recently been diagnosed with a chronic illness which I’m sure the past 15 years of stress and worry hasn’t helped. Â
A lot has happened in these past 4 months & today he’s been pestering me for money to ‘pay his boss back’ he tells me he could lose his job. Do I lend this to him money to help him or am I just enabling him & stopping him from getting to rock bottom?Â
I’m getting to the place that I’m accepting there’s no coming back from this as husband & wife as I can’t continue to put my health on the line for someone who doesn’t consider how it impacts me.Â
He pulls on my heart, I don’t want to see him hurting or jobless but am I kidding myself that I’m helping/protecting him?
Don't give him the money, reality has to come crashing down on him like a ton of bricks for him to change.Â
Hope this helps
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Dave101
Please don't give him any money. It won't help. It isn't your problem to fix. Sending love and strength to you
@dave101 Thank you Dave for your response. I know I can’t keep trying to protect him so will stand my ground & not lend him anymore money.Â
@nju1wpcsb9 Thank you for your reply. No you’re right, it’s not. Thank you, I need it ?
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