My partner is a massive gambler, he lies through his teeth, never pays a penny t anything, not food, house bills, cars, petrol!! Nothin!!
I'm on my backside with money myself now... All cos of him! He takes money out my account without asking!
I'm 4 months pregnant and I now regret the man I chose t have a child with!
He admitted he has a problem, and self excluded himself from just 2 betting sites, as he says he doesn't use anymore, again I feel this is another excuse t keep betting!
My mum died 2 weeks ago after a year of suffering with cancer, I'm struggling with anyone t speak t!
Is it easier just t leave him?
Hi Lozzajade,
Thanks for your post, and welcome to the forum. I'm sorry to hear about your mother, and it sounds like you don't need all this additional stress on top of that and your pregnancy. I hope you're finding some support on this forum, at least through knowing that you're not the only one having to deal with things like this.
Only you can really decide the answer to your question, but what I would say is that it's really okay to think about yourself first here, and do what you have to do to protect yourself and your own finances, as well as your upcoming child. Admitting he has a problem is just the first step; only he can show you how seriously he takes it to finally stop gambling and take any other steps that might help him.
If you'd like someone to speak to and get some support with everything you're going through, we have partner agencies in many parts of the UK that provide free individual counselling to gamblers and their significant others. If that's something you might be interested in, we can point you in the direction of one of them, just give us a call on the Freephone Helpline at 0808 8020 133, or connect via the Netline ( http://secure.gamcare.org.uk/netline/ ). We'd be happy to talk with you and help out if possible.
Hang in there, and I hope this helps.
Travis
Thank you for the information, it is a massive help! I just don't know where t start!
My doctor says there are no services in my area. So looks like we are stuck! But I'll give these a ring!
Thank you
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Hi, what a horrible situation for you to be in, I think if you sort out the practical things like your money ,house, and how you can get by if you seperate, it will buy you time and give you chance to grieve,then tackle him, when I eventually seperated I didn't have a clue what to do or where to turn, so I think that would help. Hope you are ok and sorry for your loss. Xx dawn
Sorry to hear about your situation, mine is similar tho our kids are older 3 and 5, I decided to leave him well made him leave as its my house, but the problem doesn't go away he is still begging at my door to help him out with money not cos he loves me but because he has no food or rent.... mine self excluded himself from mobile sites but then will open another one behind my back I was fed up with constantly checking up on him bank statements trying to get his phone the fighting the shouting but at the end of the day its hard to walk away from someone you love do what's right for you and your little one xxx
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