Breaking the triangle

Well done Joanne, may be a bit inconvenience as you say, but sounds a really effective way to take the money bit of the triangle out.

Heya,

Well done on limitation. Don't worry, I went at this alone and a couple of years ago when I met my significant other I had to explain all and the blocks I had in place.

Firstly.......make a random email account.......install K9 using said account. Make a random gobbledegook password in word and use it. Set up blocks. Exit program. Delete word file.....make no record of email account. K9 allows you to send a temp password to email account so it's really important this step. Repeat for all devices. You'all be blocked for as long as you have the device. This prevents from signing up to new sites.

Secondly, review life. I found the time element of the time, money, location triangle to be crucial. I now invest my time in more worthwhile pursuits and also still cannot online gamble to this day! I got a new laptop recently, did the same. Not gambled in early two years so it works.

I did end up hating the gambling industry which is a good mindset to be in. There is a great video on here that leads to other great videos that really will make you think. Like you, I used to love a good binge and after a relapse I lost £3k. Taught me my blocks were not good enough! Don't have a costly error again. After two years I don't want to gamble, it repulses me yet the blocks are still up as you never know!

Hope this is of help. It's more a solution than exploring our need to gamble. I can never gamble again as a tiny bet would lead to thousands lost. But two years nearly has taught me that life is so much better with out gambling.......but please forgive yourself! It's a cruel mistress, took me 300 days or so to make peace with that......the losses and emotional turmoil!

Good luck!

Thanks Muststop123 for your encouraging words. I have to confess I've been reading your diary and it has given me a lot of food for thought. I admire your honesty and I respect the fact that you have taken full responsibility for your actions with regard to gambling, no excuses, no apportioning blame, you've basically told yourself losing money to gambling is not acceptable behaviour. I think this is the reason you have been so successful in being gamble-free, you thoroughly deserve to be and I know you will continue to be gamble-free. This has made me take a long, hard look at myself and I've realised I need to up my game if I'm going to make 2018 the year I do not lose a single penny to gambling. It's no longer acceptable for me to keep trashing thousands of pounds on gambling binges. Losing large sums of money to gambling had become such a habit for me that in some bizarre way I was beginning to see this as normal, acceptable behaviour, I'll be okay, I'll win it back next time and so on. Enough is enough! I'm hoping by removing my overdraft facility (giving myself no leeway), and paying for everything in cash that this will help me get back the value of money. I need to account for every penny I spend. I've given the gambling industry practically every penny I've earned these past 5 years, , 2018 is the year I make myself financially better off.

Thanks Areturntoabette for taking the time and trouble to show me how to instal k9. I only have one device, my laptop. Congratulations on being 2 years gf, fantastic achievement. I've been trying to kick this addiction into touch for over a year now and I keep relapsing. Time to get all blocks in place, rethink my finances and make 2018 the year I finally crack it and free myself from the misery of this addiction. Thanks guys. All the very best everyone.