CANT STOP

Hello Joe,

Welcome to the GamCare forum, It sounds like you have been struggling with your gambling and it is not just impacting you financially but your emotional and mental health. You have taken a positive step by accessing the support of the forum here today and seeking further support and help. It must have been a difficult time for you if you have had suicidal thoughts, this can be a challenging journey however you are taking steps on recovery by contacting us here today.

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Hi joe anxiety and paranoia are classic symptoms of addiction. Go to your gp for help. Call gamcare talk. Try a GA meeting. Get some help. Try and stop your access to money. Good luck.

Hi Joe,

You are a compulsive gambler, as long as your gambling you will struggle to stay afloat. The answer is a simple one really, stop gambling. SImple in words but for addicts like ourselves it sure as hell aint easy to do, not alone anyway.

I always thought I had my gambling under control as I did not borrow or steal for it (at least until i hit rock bottom), but that was an illusion. Looking back now I have nothing to show for my 20 years as a working adult, but no point me crying about what I have done in the past, I have to learn from it and make sure my future is a better one, which it will be once i stay bet free.

You have opened up to your family before as they have intervened but this has not helped, one of the main reasosn is most people dont really understand the issue. This is one of the reasosn GA works so well, as your surrounded by fellow compulsive gamblers. The reality is there is no cure, you are a compulsive gambler, and you will be for the rest of your life. Making your local GA meetign part of your life can really help turn your life around before this addiction destroys your business, relationships and everything your hold dear.

Good lucks with it

Hi thanks for being so welcoming,

Yes I realy have struggled for so long now it’s defiantly time that I got some proper help and guidance.

When you are on the verge on losing everything sometimes it gets to much to handle and you do get self desctructive and suicidal.

Thanks for posting the phone number I will keep them.

I will defiantly be continuing to use this forum and chat for support.

Many thanks

Joe

Merry go round wrote:

Hi joe anxiety and paranoia are classic symptoms of addiction. Go to your gp for help. Call gamcare talk. Try a GA meeting. Get some help. Try and stop your access to money. Good luck.

I didn’t think the gp would take a gambling addiction seriously to be honest I’m going to get an appointment sorted and find a local GA meeting and try to get some face to face support.

It’s hard to stop my access to money I run an online gambling website as a business it’s just getting to much to handle now, getting in so much debt and having so many problems

Thanks for the support

Joe

Joe-90 wrote:

Hi Joe,

You are a compulsive gambler, as long as your gambling you will struggle to stay afloat. The answer is a simple one really, stop gambling. SImple in words but for addicts like ourselves it sure as hell aint easy to do, not alone anyway.

I always thought I had my gambling under control as I did not borrow or steal for it (at least until i hit rock bottom), but that was an illusion. Looking back now I have nothing to show for my 20 years as a working adult, but no point me crying about what I have done in the past, I have to learn from it and make sure my future is a better one, which it will be once i stay bet free.

You have opened up to your family before as they have intervened but this has not helped, one of the main reasosn is most people dont really understand the issue. This is one of the reasosn GA works so well, as your surrounded by fellow compulsive gamblers. The reality is there is no cure, you are a compulsive gambler, and you will be for the rest of your life. Making your local GA meetign part of your life can really help turn your life around before this addiction destroys your business, relationships and everything your hold dear.

Good lucks with it

I know exactly what I am, I’m a mess I can never stay afloat anymore I feel asif it’s gone to far, I’ve always messed up every situation I’ve been in, from borrowing money to bet, spending other people’s money, all the rent money, making bad decisions with clients money, spending every bit of profit or wages it just feels unstoppable like there’s a demon inside of me .

Yes I have opened up to my family before I had to theyve seen me in ver bad places.

im hoping to start going to GA meeting regular once I’ve built the courage to go to my first one, I’ve heard a lot of good things about them like you say I would be around other compulsive gamblers and hearing there situations.

thanks for the support

joe

You run an online gambling business ?? Really ?

Johnnyboychap wrote: You run an online gambling business ?? Really ?

In a nutshell basically. Things can go alright for while and then your addiction creeps back up on you

That confuses me Joe, is it a casino you run? Or one of these get quick stocks and shares things?

It makes little difference to me whatever you do, but I must say in my opinion handling any money for anybody in the throes of gambling addiction is quite a stuppid thing to do.

But if you run a gambling business can you not see you maybe causing the same sort of misery you are experiencing for your punters.

For anyone with a serious addiction, I think one of the biggest hurdles is accepting that you can change. It took me years and years to accept that I could, but I have and I havnt gambled in anyway shape or form for over a year now. My last gamble was a lottery ticket. Dosn't sound too serious eh? That particular day wasn't but during the previous 35 years it had been very serious. Or very pathetic.

You can change Joe, GA might help you, this site might help you, but at the end of the day it is down to you to change. I would think one of the first things you should consider changing is your line of work.

And PS. You can stop but you have to want to, it's as simple as learning to say "no." .

geordie wrote:

That confuses me Joe, is it a casino you run? Or one of these get quick stocks and shares things?

It makes little difference to me whatever you do, but I must say in my opinion handling any money for anybody in the throes of gambling addiction is quite a stuppid thing to do.

But if you run a gambling business can you not see you maybe causing the same sort of misery you are experiencing for your punters.

For anyone with a serious addiction, I think one of the biggest hurdles is accepting that you can change. It took me years and years to accept that I could, but I have and I havnt gambled in anyway shape or form for over a year now. My last gamble was a lottery ticket. Dosn't sound too serious eh? That particular day wasn't but during the previous 35 years it had been very serious. Or very pathetic.

You can change Joe, GA might help you, this site might help you, but at the end of the day it is down to you to change. I would think one of the first things you should consider changing is your line of work.

And PS. You can stop but you have to want to, it's as simple as learning to say "no." .

Online trading yeah, I never thought about it the way you put it to me there

Maybe it is making my life worse by the line of work im in at the moment.

change may help my situation something big definatly needs to happen in my life because the way Im feeling right now is not healthy for anyone.

I hope this site can help me and I know it’s as easy as saying no but it’s having the willpower to actually say no

Thanks for the support

Joe

Hello Joeg1,

Thank you for welcoming me at forum. Yes, relapses have been hurting me bad. I am competitive and I don't want to lose in gambling, which makes me a loser big time when I gamble. I am a loser when I gamble. It's about time to put my white flag up on gambling and put this habbit to an end.

About your being reluctant to go to GA meetings, I think it's normal for people with social anxiety and depression. Probably, that is the reason why I got hooked on online betting, which I don't need to go out to meet people. I might not go GA meetings for those reasons since I am already here and this forum could be enough.

merlins wrote:

Hello Joeg1,

Thank you for welcoming me at forum. Yes, relapses have been hurting me bad. I am competitive and I don't want to lose in gambling, which makes me a loser big time when I gamble. I am a loser when I gamble. It's about time to put my white flag up on gambling and put this habbit to an end.

About your being reluctant to go to GA meetings, I think it's normal for people with social anxiety and depression. Probably, that is the reason why I got hooked on online betting, which I don't need to go out to meet people. I might not go GA meetings for those reasons since I am already here and this forum could be enough.

No problem pal everyone here was very welcoming for me so it’s only right I make others feel welcome.

I am the same mate always spun everything online but to date I’ve been gambling in every aspect feeling hungry to gamble just to lose everything. Like today I’ve woken up and the first thing I thought about was gambling I had a dream I had a big win last nightlight I want to get out of this mind state so bad I’m prepared to do a lot of things to get through this hard time in my life.

This forum has defiantly helped a bit since I’ve joined got to just take each day as it comes and do everything in your power to resist

Al the best joe