Desperate need advice

Strange one this...
But for me....I'm actually glad I got caught up in addiction. .
Yes...it was horrendously difficult at the time. ...but fast forward to today...I'm happy...I'm alive..I'm living...I don't know the end of my story yet....because untill the day I did there won't be an end...
But...here and now life's good. ..
Never ever thought id be posting that on here all those days ago..
Sending you a big hug...you can do this xx

Thanks loxxie

Yeah your right we do stupid things and I gave learned a very big lesson from this self destructive behaviour. I will never ever gamble again . Thanks to everyone for your replies the help and advice you have all been very supportive.

Hi,

I found out the hard way about my husband’s gambling and didn’t like it (actually it was devastating) so I would always urge honesty to a partner.

It sounds as if you have two separate problems which each require your attention. The starting point might be honesty with yourself about your relationship. From the receiving end of abuse, the tendency is to minimise it but like addiction, it’s more helpful to describe abusive behaviour as “abusive behaviour” (not “mood swings”, “bad temper” or “stress”) and addiction as “addiction” and then consider from a position of strength how to cope with them. Choosing to escape from reality via addiction is destructive all round. So address your gambling addiction via GA but also consider CoDA, which is a Fellowship about healthy relationships, starting with your relationship with yourself. Start to take control of you, your life and your happiness because no one else can do it (they can try but that’s dysfunctional).

CW