desperate need of help & guidance

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i am a 21 year old man who has a full time job earning 1300 a month. i currently live at home, no bills to pay other than my phone bill.

i have been playing roulette since i was 18. started off as a bit of fun however it soon became a problem, going to the FOBT machines, going to the casinos, occasionally winning some big money however 9 times out of 10 losing a lot too. i had at first an overdraft of 3000, it made me depressed, upset, unwell to the point i was admitted to hospital as it was affecting my heart rate, my moods, i was on medication for depression.

I eventually confronted my fear and spoke to my parents, they were extremely sympathetic, they paid off my overdraft and for a short period of time i was happy, every day. I am a type 1 diabetic also, when my blood sugar is high i have no level of concentration at all and can do something and totally forget i've done it, almost as if i'm in a second state of mind..

This time last year i had been playing roulette, i won roughly 8,000 playing roulette online, not in one night but in around 4 seperate sessions, i was ecstatic.. i had arranged to put all my money into savings, buy a car, have a nice holiday with my girlfriend.. then one night i was bored, it was raining outside i was sat in my room alone i decided to play roulette on my laptop.. this has been the biggest mistake of my life.

i don't remember losing the first 3,000.. it was going through my head i've just lost 3,000 i need to get this back then before i knew it i had lost it all. i sat in my room and cried myself to sleep, i didn't sleep for three days, i even considered taking my own life.

my debt again was paid off by my parents there to guide me and help me. Now, 12 months later i'm sat with an overdraft of 1300, a credit card of 300 constantly every day feeling down, depressed and just not myself. i work so hard for my money, soon i'm moving into a rented property with my girlfriend and i need this to be the END.

someone please help me and advise what i can do, it's making me so ill, this issue is an issue for a lot of people and it's just far to easy to gamble. i need to look forward, not back.

tonight my dad has lent me some money to get me to work and back, i've just sat and gambled it all. 30 in a matter of seconds. i really really, need some help.

thanks,

al

 
Posted : 27th October 2014 10:49 pm
jonlostmydoe
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Hi mate sorry to hear of your troubles.

First thing you need to do is self exclude from bookies / casinos. Also you need to install blocking software on your computer or smash it into pieces like I did to mine last week.

Another good strategy is to let someone take control of your finances and just carry the bare minimum with you.

You also need lots of willpower. Good luck !

 
Posted : 27th October 2014 11:21 pm
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thanks for your help mate.

i have tried to look forward but for some reason i keep looking back. i feel as if i'm setting myself up to fail and i have no idea why i'm doing this to myself?

i just feel lost, down and depressed. certainly some things i will try and do.

really appreciate your help, thanks for taking some time out to speak to me, mate.

 
Posted : 28th October 2014 12:22 am
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thanks for your help mate.

i have tried to look forward but for some reason i keep looking back. i feel as if i'm setting myself up to fail and i have no idea why i'm doing this to myself?

i just feel lost, down and depressed. certainly some things i will try and do.

really appreciate your help, thanks for taking some time out to speak to me, mate.

 
Posted : 28th October 2014 12:37 am
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thanks for your help mate.

i have tried to look forward but for some reason i keep looking back. i feel as if i'm setting myself up to fail and i have no idea why i'm doing this to myself?

i just feel lost, down and depressed. certainly some things i will try and do.

really appreciate your help, thanks for taking some time out to speak to me, mate.

 
Posted : 28th October 2014 12:55 am

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