Don’t know what to do

Hey Jacob

im really sorry to read your first post. It sounds like you are as broken and desperate as I am right now. Listen, by you signing up here and starting this thread you’ve already made steps to change. It’s obvious that you want that.
gambling tricks our brain into doing some horrendous things that are really not in our usual nature. 

How and on what do you usually gamble? I’m asking so I can offer some support on deterrents to make it more difficult or even prevent you from being able to gamble I. The future.

im sure there will be more together people along soon to help. I again did not sleep last night so am not sure I can be that great to anyone right now.

Em x

It is called rock bottom. Nasty place to be but at least you know that you need to fight your way back up. This is man-made.  The machines did not come into your house and empty your pockets. You went out and managed that instead. We are socially toned habitual animals with an impulse disorder. That in short means that we fire away our cash and react after it happens.  When you come to terms that it simply can not continue like this you will need to seek help and advice. The fast way is to let someone else help you run your economy for a while and in the meantime talk to counsellors here who can direct you to the recourses you need. I can relate to where you are and so can many of the people here in recovery. There is no quick fix but a long set of stair leading back up. And let me tell you. It is possible to get back up. You need to stay calm and not panic. Look at things for what they are accept and solve the issues. One after the other. Make a plan. It is important.

Good luck in your recovery!

I am not asking you to agree here but "THEIR" whole concept of trying to sell this to you is just a bit of fun done purely by your "FREE CHOICE" and we addicts don't have that. It started by our free choice because we believed the adverts that conditioned us to start all this, then we developed impulse control disorder from the repeat behaviour and that means that we go into their pubs or bookies and put the money in their machines. If you want to change that and beat the bgrs at their own game it is all about making the proper choices and that's before you gamble and not afterwards. That's why I am saying it is man-made to start with. At some stage in your gambling career, you started gambling then it went from bad to worse. I hope I explained it well enough.

Jacob You say you don't know what to do its quite simple really Stop. I know how you feel but honestly the only way forward is to stop right now ! All the Best

Hi Emily

Thank you so much for replying 

Thank you and yeah I do like genuinely I don’t enjoy or get pleasure from gambling I nervous and tense and I don’t actually find it enjoyable 

I put this on myself and I know I can beat it I know I’ve got it in me to not gamble and the most key thing NOT GAMBLE again

How are you feeling right now with things? I’m happy to talk to you if you like..? Let me know 

I gamble on FOBT machines which are money sucking machines!!! When you can literally blow £500 in 10 minutes that’s crazy and WRONG and it’s not right it shouldn’t be allowed however right now it is

I hope you’ve had a rest today and had a nap at least and just took a bit of time for yourself last night must have been terrible for you  

Let me know soon how your feeling and stuff hope todays been better for you 

Wish you all the best!

Yes I know that and I do put it on myself which I think in my view is rightly so 

I have to put accountability on me otherwise I’m hopeless and there would just literally be no point in anything 

I have no one around me now to help so I’m going to have to seek advice from different Avenues else where and contact services that can help me but at the moment I’m just really really struggling with things and I don’t know what to do I’m really concerned worried scared and all of those kind of emotions 

I will do everything you put in that message to me and I’ll put it into action 100% and channel it to my future and put it on me and go towards not gambling 

Thank you for your words as although they were stern - stern still helps and sometimes you need it so thank you 

All my best for you 

Hey Sam

Thanks for your message and words I appreciate that and it really helps with your input and just reinforcing the message to me and everyone really you spoke the absolute truth there and that’s what everyone needs is the truth
All the best for you

Hello Jacob

It sounds like you have reached the end of the road with your gambling and the effects it is having on your life. Please do continue to reach out and use all our services to fuel your recovery and know that you are not alone with any of this. If you haven't already rung us, a good starting point is to contact the HelpLine 0808 8020 133 24/7 or our NetLine, to speak to an adviser about everything available.

I know things feel awfully hard currently, but people manage to recover from compulsive gambling, as you can see from this forum. So please do keep getting support and use as many tools and as much help as you can get to fuel your recovery. You are not alone there is help and there is hope.

wishing you all the best

Cal

Forum Admin

Hey,

You're so welcome! Those FOBT really do suck the life and money out of us 🙁

I completely agree, I hate gambling but there's a thin line between love and hate. It also makes me nervous and anxious (particularly when I am winning) - which is weird.

I did rest yesterday, cant really work or focus on anything other than what feels like recent losses but I am finding so much help in this forum. Little quotes like "every win is a future loss" - I highly recommend Russ_789 diary. "The bookies don't pay out winnings, only tokens (for us to put right back in)'"

Today I have got a lot on and a funeral tomorrow so I should be ok until then. The days I am REALLY concerned about now are Friday and Saturday. I just cannot gamble... I really hope you are feeling better and staying strong.

Look forward to reading your update soon

Em x

Hey Emily 

Yeah literally the FOBT are just money making machines for whatever brand is above the shop door and ruin so much for the people who fall into them 

Stay away from the shop or you’ll never get better 

That’s literally what I tell myself 

Yeah I get those feelings too for me it doesn’t surprise me when I’m winning I’m nervous because I know I could loose it all in a instant that’s why I’m feeling that feeling 

Ah good I’m glad you had some rest time yes sometimes more recently intact I have reflected and thought about them a lot more and it’s made me a lot more unhappy and playing on my mind so much more

Ok I will check that out

Good it’s really good when you have a lot on ( at least it is for me ) just focuses your mind in to being productive and simply just takes up your time for something other than gambling

That's sad ? is it anyone close to you who’s past away? What’s going happening on Friday and Saturday? What’s makes you concerned about those? Not really feeling any better was still having all sorts go through my head last night and really not good things

All my best for you 

It was my Nan that passed ?

Her funeral was on Thursday so Friday and Saturday were really difficult days for me but I’m proud to say I did not gamble. I think you may be onto something when you say the nerves are from knowing you could loose a win in an instant. It’s what usually happens to me.

How is your financial situation now? How’s things with the other half? Are you having any urges? Friday was harder for me than Saturday. I’m normally a weekend gambler so if I can just get through today I should be ok till end of next week. I used to play FOBT’s but then I stupidly discovered online gambling and things got a lot worse as the online sites never close. Look forward to hearing how you’re doing.

Em x