Feeling Emotional !

Hi Alan 135,

I don`t know the full story (whether you have a partner and/or told them too) in my case it was the same.... I felt I was so stupid, clearly I should have chosen another way than turning into stupid compulsive gambling..... and of course I told my partner so I saw what it did to him- which of course makes your guilt worse.... Than I was thinking I am a really horrible person.... so here it goes. At times I would be perfeclty fine talking about it, and the next I would start crying.....

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Hi ALAN135,

Welcome to the forum, and thanks for your post too.

I’d like to assure you that the mixed feelings you’re experiencing is not unusual when one takes the plunge to stop their problematic gambling. It’s a big step in the right direction, and gambling problem affects people differently.

As much as we’re all human, we all react differently to similar situations. Thus feeling happy sometimes, and then suddenly becoming emotional is not uncommon for people in your situation, and is part of the changing process.

Your emotions will eventually settle; you have to be patient with yourself, and take it one day at a time. In case your sleeplessness continues, I suggest that you go and see your GP about it.

I’m also glad to read that our forum has been useful and enabled you to open up. Now that you’ve decided to stop, I’m encouraging you not to look back, but to keep up the good work, as there’s light at the end of the tunnel.

Pls. try and stay in touch with us so we can help and support you in case you need further assistance.

Maybe you’ll like to contact us via our free phone Helpline on: 0808 80 20 133, and speak to one of our advisers.

Our lines are open everyday from 8.00am to midnight.

Thanks again for your post, and pls. keep posting.

Best wishes,

Beatrice

Hi to all , many thanks for the reassuring words and advice its much appreciated. I have told my partner and my grown up children everything I've done . They took it pretty well after the inital shock and have been very supportive . Its the first time I have been honest for a long time and it does feel good . I have also self excluded over the last couple of days .So I no longer have the temptation to bet at all the usual haunt's. this to was initially very embarassing but again something I had to do and once done felt very satisfying. Im sure the emotions will subside with time as you say , just everythings a bit raw and new at the moment . I wish I'd bothered to look at this site months ago , as I do find it comforting and very inspirational . Thanks to all .

Hi Alan and welcome to the site. Like yourself I feel your pain of the early signs after finally stopping. For the first week i was in bits. It was all a blur but as mentioned above time does heel and the gambeling hangover does stop. It's up to you to decide if you want to continue the dark rollercoaster or become the better man in beating this horrendous addiction like you are doing right now. You can do this and coming on the forum is a massive step. It's good to have you on the forum. Looking forward to knowing more on your story.

Yep, up & down, all over the place more than just the usual female hormones...A year down the line, I'm still a bit nuts & my sleep is no better but it's no longer gambling guilt causing it so I guess that's just me!

I can almost feel your sense of relief @ having it out in the open...A massive well done on that, it must have been very difficult (please let your family know there is help through Gamcare & Gamanon if they find themselves struggling any once the dust of the revelation had settled)! & self exclusion (embarrassing as it is, well @ first anyway) is vital to get your Time-Money-Location triangle broken (remove 1 & you can't gamble)! You may hate the addiction & what it had done to you @ the moment but stay on your guard, it is evil & patient & will try & worm it's way back into your life!

This site is fab...Maybe worth considering a Recovery Diary & there are 2 challenges running @ the mo, a few weeks left on a 90 day one run by Sandra12 (Friday check in) & there is also 2015 Challenge if you're planning on sticking around!

Welcome to recovery 🙂 Time to get your life back - ODAAT

Hi Lordlucan . Many thanks for your kind comments . Its so nice to hear from others who are the only ones that can really relate to how a recovering gambler feels . As for most of my story , it seems to have ended up on my profile page under my first entry ? think it was me being unsure of what was posted where ! All the best for now and hope to talk with you on another occasion . Cheers !!

Hi ODAAT . Thanks for all the Info, will definately be sticking around as am in for the long haul this time . Will check out the diarys over the weekend . thank you !

alan, i'm 27 days in and i'm still having the ups (feeling better) and the downs (really depressed state). even thurday this week i was at work and i was nearly crying for no obvious reason but all i can think of it just got on top of me. i hopeing all of the advise people give saying it gets easier does really happen and i'm focised on being in that place. the end of the day we hav done this to ourselves and we need to deal with it. i really do feel for you and hope you beat this addiction. i've been going to GA meetings for the last 3 weeks and i find they help massively. your talking to people face to face to 100% get what your saying and you can relate to their stories too.

keep strong alan, you can do it mate!!!

Hi bob 81 and thanks mate for your comments . Its obviously very early days for me yet and dealing with up and down feelings is something Iwill have to get used to . feeling good today so thats a plus ! and being on this site with all the good vibes also helps. Congratulations to you on getting to almost a month , big big acheivment buddy . All the best for now !!

Hi Alan , today is the first day for me (starting a fresh after stopping for 9 months and starting again for 3 months ) . Reading your threads have made me realise that it can be done although you are in the early stages too . Thanks for the inspiration

Hi Jon 3904 , going through yesterdays comments and am really glad youre making a fresh attempt to stop gambling mate , well done . Just wondering what was the trigger for starting again after 9 months ? I'm not prying , just interested . Off to work in a mo but will be back later tonight to pick up on any comment you may wish to leave ! Hope today went well for you , stay strong buddy !!

Hello Diary , Wow !! double figures day 10 has arrived , Feeling pretty good and full of positivity for the future ! Have sorted a lot of stuff out this week , my hips are feeling much better after my injections on wednesday no more pain for a while ! Now getting stuff ready for my sons return to University on Sunday , Gonna miss him when he goes , as we get on so well when he comes home , Best wishes to everyone on the road to recovery , Keep strong people and BOLLXXKS TO THE BOOKIES !! From Alan who will not gamble today !!

Alan be strong and keep up the good work.sounds like your on the right road mate good luck h can relate to a lot you have said, your far from on your own mate so dig deep and keep it up day 1 starts for me today.

Thank you ALAN 135 im so happy for you that you have made it into double figures i dont now where my head is at right now but you writing on my page has help me today as feeling really negative at the moment all the best with your recovery and hope to speak again soon dawncarol