New here and need help

Hi I am still paying off my debts years later. All because of gambling I relapsed yesterday but closed the account and plan the stay off. Well done for coming on here it is a start

Hi Scott, well done for seeking help & admitting you have a problem. Thats the first and most important step.

The journey to giving up gambling doesn't happen overnight shamefully. From years of experience I've seen very few who manage it the first time. Main thing is not kick yourself and feel to down about your relapse. With GB (myself included) we've gambled for so many years it's become a way of life. In the past, when I've relapsed, I've felt whats the point in giving up? there's not turning back its apart of who I am. Complete rubbish! You just pick yourself, and carry on. Try not to feel to much shame and self pity as these are self distructive characteristics.

You said 'I don't even know why I bet'. Try to think what made you gamble? was it bordom, stress, anxiety, the thrill of the chase etc. Relapsing not a good thing, can't hide away from that. Thou if you can take one positive thing from relapsing. Find whats making you relapse, than try and change those things.

Thank you for the replies. Matt, I had a doctors appointment, which is opposite the bookies, as I come out I had an urge to go check the horses, ended up in and out of there for 2 hours or so. Lost 80 and walked out with 20, was going to put two £10 bets on two horses, but decided to walk (and they both won). I kick myself now and I know I shouldn't have done it!

Hi

I'm in a bit of debt. I came clean to my girlfriend about 3/4months ago. Told her what I owed, why I owed it. She fantastically stood by me and said she'd helped me as long as I was honest and didn't relapse. But over the last 4/5 weeks I've fallen. Been gambling when I can. I don't even know why because I was doing other things to keep me interested. It's the first time I've relapsed. But now with her helping me. Part of the deal is me being honest and one of my credit cards has risen back up to its limit with me falling back down over the past couple of weeks. I need to tell her, I also need to explain to my parents the seriousness of my problem as I'm still living at home. And this is another thing I feel scared and embarrassed to do. Just looking for advice on how to go about telling them. With expecting the worst..

Dale