i have admitted to my family that i have a gambling problem for the second time.. the and need a serious help.the difference between now and the first time i did is that i got in contact with gamcare and GA and every organisation that i know that offer help to problem gamblers because gambling has turn into this person(sad,lonely,insecure..etc) that i dont recognise anymore.i have been gambling on the machines for about 4 years and online for 3 and lost in excess of over 100 grand. all i wanted was to get my money back the very first time lostand ever since i have been loosing and my life has been spiralling downwards.
im glad theres a place like this were i can share the problem im facing as a result of gambling and someone will understand me. in the years i have been gambling i have always known that im waisting away my life and i really want to stop . but when payday comes i just couldnt wait to go online or the bookies. as soon as i lost,i get back to my senses and that has been the cycle ever since. now my relationship with my family as been adversly affected,social life and financial difficulties ,all as a result of my gambling.
the i only way i can ever WIN is to STOP and i am VERY determined to do so with strong will,support and God on my side. I'm tired of waising away life.
no one was born with a gambling gene in thier DNA,so i believe we all addicted and affected by it can put a stop to it if we REALLY want to.
i know there will be temptaions and urges along the way but we have to learn to fight it.
Hi Mikey88, welcome to the Forum and very well done for posting what you have here,
I gambled for twenty years before stopping over five years ago.
One of the first things I realized after stopping for a while was that I hadn't changed, I truly wasn't this anxious, emotional, tempremental, deceitful person because it was only gambling that pushed me into feeling this way and doing the things I did.
The problem (at first) is that this is all people see after a while, and they begin to believe that you are this twisted, shadow of a person they once knew. But there is nothing more beautiful than seeing trust, hope and belief return to the eyes of those you love and care about most - this is what you must strive for my friend.
Take it one day, one hour at a time if needs be my friend. It is very, very important to remember that urges are only temporary, they soon pass - do whateve you need to do to get through them my friends, go for a run, post here, speak to a friend, punch a pillow, go to bed - work out a routine to "ride the storm".
You can get there - there is nothing written anywhere to say that you can't beat this, once and for all. But is won't happen overnight, and there will be some dark days and ground to cover in the meantime but, as long as you can get through it, they will lessen considerably and you will be able to think and feel a lot more clearly.
Well done for your positive and proactive approach; the next step is to put some weight behind your words and do anything and everything that is necessary. If you are having a bad day, don't let it stop you from doing what you have to - you will feel better for it if you push & force yourself to get through it.
JamesP
Thank you so much james for your words of encouragement and congrats on abstaing from gambling for five years. i dream of that day which will be able tell say to myself ,i have not gambled for five years or more.
People like you give me hope and like you said is time to back up my words with action,taking it one day at a time. i really appreciate your words of comfort James .
thanks again,so much.
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