Hello

Hi. Signed up today after telling the wife about my gamblig habit.

Just wanted to say i feel ashamed. Why did i gamble and put everyone in my family ay risk? I have written to the mortgage people begging them to allow me to keep my house as i am in serious arrears.

Did think about the obvious easy way out but what we would that serve? It would leave my wife in serious debt and i would never see my kids grow up? If you are reading this be strong and take the first step, in my eyes, that i needed to admit this addiction to myself. The lies i have told to get money and the problems it has caused are coming home to roost. I feel for my family but you don't care about this while your gambling it is only afterwards that the low is so low you need to gamble to get back high !!!

The posts on here are so useful. I have taken heed and will give my bank cards to my wife to start with. I have no money for Xmas though and although this will make it hard for all i think it best to begin somewhere. It just happens to be Xmas time.

Hi villian ,I have now not gambled for 7 days , it is hard but like yourself i put my family and life in a bad way

bloody roulette machines!

b*****d evil , i know the high of winning and the remorse and losing , I am going to do this for my children family and self believe that i can beat this , I to have got behind with mortgage arrears and have been offered to pay a little extra each month until the shortfall is made up Everytime i go into town and look at the bookies i say to myself f** you , you are not getting my hard earned cash anymore , you must keep on track and not look at the racing post or race results or soccer odds etc

STAY STRONG MATE I AM WITH YOU ALL THE WAY , also use this site to talk to advisors they helped me through even the smallest conversations , take care and the self believe to beat this you will feel so proud and good about yourself !!

just keep checking this site and you are on the road to quiting ........for good

gra123s wrote:

Hello Gra , set yourself a plan give yourself a marker say New yr day for gambling , i just got to 7 days with no bookies , I feel proud

I walked past l*******s , w**********l and thought no ,I even saw mates of mine who said were have you been ,I said I am giving up

reply you will be back , this spurred me on to not go in , I will be as high as a Kite when I get to 14 days 21 days etc this is my goal

and when I look in my wallett will be thinking this was all worth it , to have money for my kids , family extra shopping days out etc

even treat myself to a little shopping trip , be strong mate it is tough but when you get there the feeling will be with you for a long time to come , Keep telling yourself this is the new me !!!!!

I'm Gra and have a gambling problem. I registered to the site yesterday and I've spent a good bit of time reading some great info on the site.

I desperately do not want to gamble. I have a reasonably good job but I never have any money as I gamble it all.

I hope to post more later but I want today to be my first gambling free day. I have two things going through my mind and would really appreciate some feedback:

1: I bet on sports mainly and do occasionally pick some winners but obviously I lose more than I win which is why I am here. How do you deal with the feeling you get when a result you've 'picked' comes in and you haven't backed it? I'm worried that results will go my way and I'll kick myself for not backing them and missing out on 'free cash'

2: Where should I start on my road to recovery? I suffer from literally every addiction there is and I feel overwhelmed that I really don't know where to begin? I drink/smoke/eat excessively/gamble far too much and I don't know how I can possibly tackle each and every addiction. I am addicted to everything and it feels completely overwhelming. Have others felt like this who can offer some hope?

Best wishes

also new to this site so hoping for inspiration !!!

well done berlin

stay on track , and think of all the extra's you can have at christmas , and not wasted lost on gambling !! stay strong.

gra123s

1) I don't bet so not qualified to advise but I would imagine if you kept a virtual record of all the bets you want to put on & the actual outcomes over say a week you will find that regardless of the odd win, the losses would far outweigh them

2) You just started...Welcome 🙂

I'm just a compulsive gambler in recovery myself so am no use with what you tackle first but my advice would be to seek professional help. Many people here are struggling to overcome just one addiction, you have a lot of hard work ahead & I think it will be too hard to face it alone.

As for the hope...I have hope for you! Be strong - ODAAT

hi gra123s

just posting on here is a massive step in the right direction. be proud that you have taken the first step as we all know its the hardest part amitting you have a problem.

when i first stopped i always beat myself up when my fav bet came in and i said i always back that one. it hurts at first but you get over it. i stopped watching football because i didnt want to see my fav bet win...now how sad is that! now i can watch a match and instead of counting corners i actualy enjoy the game!

be positive and set yourself a challenge, every morning wake up and say im not going to gamble today! when you walk past the bookies feel proud you havent gone in and that smile will come back

Thanks for the responses.

2nd day without a bet today. I had an online chat with someone at gamcare and they've referred me for 121 counselling.

A couple of bets I always back came in yesterday and today so obviously I'm a little disappointed I didn't back them however I didn't come to these forums because I keep winning it's because I lose more than I win

chemistry1 wrote: thank you chemistry......

well done berlin

stay on track , and think of all the extra's you can have at christmas , and not wasted lost on gambling !! stay strong.

thank you forthe positive responses

gra123s wrote:

Hi Gra well done on you great start , like a mini advent calender , stay with , I have now got to 9 days not missing It

dont bother to look at what you might have one , your a winner for not placing a bet ,

remember all those bankers the let you down !

Thanks for the responses.

2nd day without a bet today. I had an online chat with someone at gamcare and they've referred me for 121 counselling.

A couple of bets I always back came in yesterday and today so obviously I'm a little disappointed I didn't back them however I didn't come to these forums because I keep winning it's because I lose more than I win

bilio63 wrote:

hi gra123s in a nutshell , that is a great way to think bilio we done

just posting on here is a massive step in the right direction. be proud that you have taken the first step as we all know its the hardest part amitting you have a problem.

when i first stopped i always beat myself up when my fav bet came in and i said i always back that one. it hurts at first but you get over it. i stopped watching football because i didnt want to see my fav bet win...now how sad is that! now i can watch a match and instead of counting corners i actualy enjoy the game!

be positive and set yourself a challenge, every morning wake up and say im not going to gamble today! when you walk past the bookies feel proud you havent gone in and that smile will come back

Well done for admitting you've got a problem and seeking help.

Having your fantasy bet on something you thought you may have backed has been my problem in the past.
You've got to realise winning is more damaging than losing,it only gives you more ammunition to lose in future bets,you will want to replicate that winning feeling again and again until the enviable happens and we lose its a merry go round,you can't win cos you can't stop,it's a lose,lose scenario.

Take things a day at a time,these football,horse results will become insignificant over time.

Start a diary and keep posting

im so glad i joined this site, everyone of you are giving me inspiration

three years ago i lost my wife, children and home through this adiction. i put them through hell, it was always their fault.

my children always kept in touch and ive always supported them financialy and emotionaly. but i lost three good years with them.

i now have a partner whos supporting me and ditched freinds who dont. proud of everyone of you on here, every message means a lot and helps me to beat the disease