Hello, im Nisa from Indonesia. I’ve been gamble for 5 years. I cant stop, or maybe i never want to stop. Its so hard here in my coubtry to find help, even my therapist didnt see it as a serious problem.
I just married 2 months ago, my husband knows about my gambling but he tought i stop already. And now im in a serious debt, im not working and i dont know what to tell him. We live separately because of his work. Im so scared to tell him everything, but i cant live with the lies anymore.
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i have BPD, and i used to leave everyone before they left me. I really have the urge to leave my husband because i cant stand with his disappointment in me if i tell him.Â
Just try and get the support you need to stay off a bet firstly u got to want it for yourself come on here and talk about your feelings towards gamblingÂ
Hi Nisa.
I was in a very similar position to you. I gambled compulsively for 7 years and kept it all from my wife of 16 years. I was terrified about telling her, mainly because I was ashamed and mainly because I was afraid she would leave me if I did.
Admitting you need help is a great first step but I urge you to come clean to your husband. I know from experience that you can't keep something like this to yourself, you will literally drive yourself crazy.
You're in the right place to get the help you need. Good luck.
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