i have joined this site as i really need help with the gambeling addiction i have i have just about ruined my realtionship as iv been secretly gambeling for the last six months and spent a lot on it, our savings which i could kick my self for this all happend cause of one win and i was hooked. My partner has seen something in me for years and think iv been in denial for years about addiction and fighting agains things all the time. i get very annoyed and defencive if people suggest i have a problem but guess that is just a reaction to the reality that i do.
i have blocked myself from all sites and havent been on for a few days, id be lying if i said i didnt miss it and makes me think i really do have a problem with it. i am here for help and any advice on how to get a grip on this my wife s the most important person to me and the thought that iv let her down is killing me
sam
Sam
You have done the right thing by coming on here. If you read some posts on here you may find a common term of "hitting rock bottom". This is probably the lowest point that people reach and then realise that they need to change their lives. I am not a gambler but have been helping a family member for quite a while now so I have witnessed what you are facing. You mentioned the secrecy of what you have been doing and there lies the problem. You are hiding this from your wife/partner and that is what makes it easier for you to gamble but unfortunately it is making your life a lot harder. It is up to you but my advice would be to tell your wife everything now before it all spirals out of control really badly. The worst thing you can do now is get into huge debt, which I can tell you now is quite likely to happen. It is awful sitting someone down to tell them and there will be a lot of emotion but it is up to you to convince your wife that you want to turn your life around. If necessary hand over your finances to her control or allow her to see what you are spending - that is a real deterrent. It all comes down to a choice of choosing the gambling or your family. I really hope you choose the family. Good luck and be proud that you have taken the first step to sort things and try and treat this as Day 1 of not gambling and keep counting the days. Believe me your life will be a lot brighter. Take care.
it all come out on friday the debt how long it been going on how much etc. this is why im here i hit it and i dont know what to say or what to do i just want to make it right but know its gonna take a lot of time the debt was raked up without her knowing so the trust is gone i need to take controll of this and show her that i just made a massive mistake
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