i need advice or help or something!

hi there I am new to this site. I am so sorry u r going through this, I don't know how to cope anymore, been with my boyfriend for 4 years and I have gradually watched a hobby turn into a addiction, when we met he was between jobs in the construction industry but had savings of his own, every now and then he would play the roulette machines and sometimes won quite big but like other gamblers im sure he only told me when he won not how much he actually lost, anyway gradually I had to start giving him money to pay rent as his money from the government due to unemployment was never in his bank in time or so he told me gullible I know but I believed him, gradually the inheritance money I had been left ran out then things went from bad to worse, I was still unaware of how big this problem was I suppose u could say I didn't want to see it, but anyway he got a hold of my bank card we have separate accounts and he went and withdrew £300 and gambled it resulting in me missing car payment and a few other direct debits, he admitted it and was sorry etc he then received inheritance 5 figure sum and blew the lot I was unaware at the time that the inheritance was received then he done some work on a house for a friend and the friend gave him £1000 to pay a builder and he gambled it so I took pity and took out a bank loan he promised he would never do it again, I have debts of over £3000 and he owes me £5000 plus I don't know exact figure! I had control of his card and then became lax and he told me yesterday that he gambled again and its left to me to pick up the pieces once again! I need a coping strategy as right now I am crying everytime I think about it which is basically all the time!

help