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Hi @Libbylola1,

I'm really sorry to hear you are going through such a hard time at the moment. Would you like to tell us a bit more about what's been happening for you?

I'm really glad you have joined the GamCare forum; you are taking a positive step by seeking support here. We also have a group chatroom that you might like to have a look at. You are not alone in this and we are here for you. 

You are very welcome to contact us at any time to speak one to one with an advisor - they can have a chat with you about gambling, how it has been affecting you, and discuss various options which can help. We're here 24 hours here on 0808 8020 133, on Netline, on WhatsApp and on Facebook. 

With the right support in place, people can and do recover from problem gambling and go on to feel a lot better.

Please keep posting.

Best wishes,

Sophie

Forum Admin 

I have been where you are. 3x. But you see the thing is about rock bottom, there are many layers to it and then you come to a point and discover  there is a much deeper layer beneath, and another. Each layer worse than the other. Only you can decide and make this your final rock bottom and put an end to it all and start fresh. I thought I have reached my rock bottom when I first lost my savings of £7k 2 years ago. Then I discovered another rock bottom when I got myself into debt of £49k. A relapsed which made me hit absolute rock bottom is when I lost all my wages in a day + £6700 gone in a few hours which left me in shock and depression… the worst part is losing the trust of my family and partner. I decided that this will now be my final rock bottom and really commit to really heal my mind, my soul and focus on recovery. The first few weeks was hard having no money in the bank and in a state of depression but it will get better if you really want to now start a long journey to recovery. I am no expert with advice as you can tell, 3 years this addiction has got its hold of me but for the first time in my life- I finally see some clarity. I am learning to live within my means, stop dreaming big, stop the delusions of grandeur. There is no win big enough to make you happy. I have lost myself in the process dreaming of having more money so I can buy what? Material things. Material possessions we cannot take to the grave when we die. The true beauty of living is the memories you have with your loved ones and being present in the moment. If you did somehow manage to win this big win by some sort of luck- which we know is very rare infact I will go as far to say almost impossible for 99% of us here-  Greed will soon kick in and you will want more whether it’s chasing the feeling of being on top of the world, or just chasing the good and bad chemicals that our brain is producing while we succumb to this addiction. It’s only been just over 3 weeks for me but I finally see the light, learning to love the little things. I am slowly getting my old self back. Just got paid, Christmas presents bought for all and still money left in the bank! Do I have feelings if I could actually double this now on a bet? Yes I do but then I think to myself… why go back to the bottom when I am already on my way up. Take care. I have been there so I really feel for you and stay strong. 

@roulettegotme 

Thank you for being open and honest with me . Yes my rock bottom is I’ve just spent the last of my savings 20k in a matter of months , I’m fortunate to own my house I don’t know where I’d be if I didn’t . I’ve nearly lost all my family and friends through this sickening disease . 
My friend has now help me out for the last time I now owe her 7K which I intend to pay her every penny back . 
I’m 1 week from not gambling so I’m hoping I’ve turned the corner . 
Hope you remain strong and I’ll try and do the same . 
many thanks . 

Hi,

You may have hit rock bottom but you are stronger than you know. Please reach out for help. Just getting all off your chest will help I promise. You can and will be able to pick yourself up. This community is honestly brilliant and literally saved my life. We all understand what you are going through and will be there to support and encourage you. It might feel like things can’t get better but they do and you can start to enjoy life again. Please keep posting xxx