I'm new and scared

Hi Charlie H and welcome to the forum . First of all a big well done for coming on the site and admitting you have a problem ! I've had a big problem with gambling for years but just never realised it before or just how bad it got ! So for you to realise you have a problem after a few years of gambling is a good thing in it's self ! Being honest with your husband is a must , he needs to know everything and I think you will feel much better in yourself when you no longer have to hide things from him . There is so much support for you and your family on this site , you'll be amazed !! Lots of people to talk to whenever you need to , so youre never alone ! I've now stopped betting for 9 days and am already feeling like a different person , so it wont take long for things to start looking better for you . Take each day as it comes , dont look back , if you play on sites then block them , if it's bookies exclude yourself and put as many thing inbetween you and your gambling, will all help ! Well done again for being honest and welcome to day one of the rest of your life ! All th best for now Alan !!

Hi all

I am new too. I have been playing online slots for 4 years - lying to my husband hiding letters from mortgage company and loan company where they are all behind. I hit rock bottom on Tuesday and after a row with my husband who couldn't understand why we never had any money I confessed!!!! It was the most degrading and embarrassing thing i have ever done - but he was lovely and just wants to help (not the reaction I was expecting). I have emailed all the gaming sites and self excluded and hopefully with your help I will overcome my addiction/compulsion

Sue f

Charlie I am scared too x

Hi Sue , HI sue and welcome I'm sure both you and charlie will receive many replies from members here on the forum over the coming days , you have also done the right thing in comiing clean with your husband , it's not always as bad as you are imagining it to be and once done is a massive relief ! I know it was after I told all to my partner . Good also to hear you have self excluded, also anything else you can put between you and gambling makes it much easier to resist. Take care for now and congratulations on day one of a gamble free life . As the old saying goes . Nothing to fear except fear itself !! Alan

Hi Alan and Sue. I'm dreading it, I haven't slept or eaten since I decided to confess!

Alan thanks for those words of support. We can do it!

Have either of you been to the counselling sessions?

Charlie

Not yet Charlie, but will definitely give a go. It is so good to talk to people who understand what we are going through. I feel so

embarrassed and ashamed, but am determined to beat this.

We can do it Charlie day 2 tomorrow.

thanks Alan for your encouraging words xx

Also Charlie once I told Den (husband) I felt like a weight has been lifted, I have not stopped crying and the guilt is really hard, but first steps xx

Hi Charlie , Sorry only just finished work so it's a bit late , I havn't tried the counciling as such but I did a one to one chat online with one of the Gamcare councilors when I decided to stop , I did find it helpfull with all the advice and suggestions they gave me . It's all about what you need right now and what you think will help you the best , Well that's your first day over with and it will get better with every day that passes , Stay strong for tommorow Charlie !!

Hi Sue , I think thats one of the biggest things to deal with the embarrassment , I really felt that when I had to go around all my local bookies with my photos and fill in the forms ,!! But I felt so good and empowered when I'd done this , It felt like I had taken back control of my life and I havn't had that for many years !! Take care Sue , day 2 tommorow , you can do it !!! Alan who will not gamble today !!

Well day 2 is here and I had a brilliant night. I usually gamble of a night, but never went near the computer and was in bed by 11.

Haven't got round to telling hubby yet, he went out drinking straight from work so thought it would be better telling him when he's sober. Tonight is the night.

I'm feeling very positive at the minute, just writing on here makes me feel one step closer to getting there (if that makes sense).

Charlie x

That's brilliant you didn't gamble last night xx same with me just tried to keep really busy (house never been so clean)!! Keep positive Charlie we can do it xx

3 days today!!!!!

HI Ladies , just popped in to wiish you both well in your recovery, keep strong and stay gamble free, you'll be upto your first week before you know it ! Maybe consider starting a diary soon , so you can look back and chart your progress ? just a thought ! Take care from Alan who will not gamble today !!

Hi this is day 3 for me and I've never felt better. Told my husband everything last night and he didn't kick off like I thought he would. He's being very supportive of me.
I really thought once I'd told him, I would be single.

I'm glad I came on here it's really helping, reading other people's stories and getting messages off people.

I'm glad we're in it together.

We can do it!

Good luck with your days

Charlie x

Charlie - that is fantastic, isn't the sense of relief wonderful now he knows? Each day I am feeling better and have got a little more money in the bank (will take months to get back on track)- but by now I would be over my overdraft and dipping into my daughters savings to feed the family until payday!!!!

enjoy your worry free weekend, we are the luckiest people in the world Charlie and we will kick this !!!! Sue x