Its been less than 48 hours since I found out my husband has been gambling and trading and taken out £48k worth of debt across multiple credit cards and loans.
Im devastated and I dont know which way is up.Â
We are one year into our first home, a home that my parents helped us secure after a section 21 kicked us out of our home. We have three children and I thought everything was okay. We had done small renovations, nothing crazy. Some paint and panelling.Â
I noticed our account was in the overdraft way before pay day but he would explain it away saying I had spent too much getting clothes for the boys or unnecessary vinted purchases.... and I trusted him.
He came clean which I get took guts but he told me then left me with it and has been silent since. I understand hes ashamed but I feel like ive got a lot of the emotional weight of it and ive still got to work at my very new job snd give it everything I have.Â
Im so lost I dont know where to start. My parents dont want me taking out any credit in my name and they said that I shouldn't give up anything and mor shpuld our boys (like football) because we didnt do this.Â
I actually dont know what to do next.
Hi @AnnieK, welcome to the forum and thank you for sharing your experience.
I can hear how difficult things are for you currently, balancing both your own feelings and navigating family and daily life after finding out about your husbands gambling.
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