Lost all my money in online gambling!

Hope I did the this yesterday too spent my entire wage. And I terrified to reach out to my family/partner.

I wish you the best of luck.

Hi Hope

My problem is online slots too. Hope you find some way to come up with money to cover bills it's such a hopeless feeing but there is hope. The people here are so supportive and have been the lifeline I needed and hopefully for you too.

Best wishes

Hi Hope,

I know exactly how you feel right now, you will get through this. If you can't borrow money call up the companies and see if you can defer the payments, they should be fine.

I used to wait up until 1am the morning of payday and a few times i had gambled my whole wage away by the time i was going to work at 8am. While others at work were waking up to a nice pay pack i had already spunked it all, no money for bills no money to live. The worst thing is cause my partner didnt know i still had to act like i had money, used to make me sick with worry. The point is somehow you do always get through it and you will to.

Good luck, we are all here for you!!

Chancex

Thanks guys, it's a good feeling to know that somehow there's someone out there who understands. I will follow your advise I'll phone the council tax office and TV license on Monday. Imagine even just for TV license I can't afford to pay today, what a life. Feeling bad for my daughter can't even take her out, no holiday for her this year.

-Hope17

I know how you feel. Same payday for me, everything gone. I am so worried right now I havent got a clue how I am going to get through this month.

I gambled all my wage last month too, I knew at the time I couldnt let it happen again, but when I got paid I thought the online slots 'owed me' and that I would win it all back. It wasnt going to happen because even when I do win, I put it all back.

If you are on the online slots I would definitely self exclude yourself from the site you have just put all you money in to. Whats gone is gone and you wont be tempted to try and win it back when you get paid next month, like I foolishly did.

I hope this helps, and the best of luck to everyone.

When you are thinking straight and want to stop make sure you put as many things in place to make it impossible/difficult to gamble... self exclusions, new cards or blocking cards etc.. etc.. so when you have those urges its not so easy and you have time to think it over....

Hope I came clean last night, best decision I have made to date. It was very scary but if the people around you love you they will support you, even if they find it difficult to understand. Good luck on you journey whatever way you decide to go 🙂

i have self-excluded now to all the online slots I'm on. It's my day off today and I stayed on bed while my daughter watches TV. Hoping I will have the courage to call the companies i owe on Monday to ask them if they can defer my payment for this month.

Thanks.

-Hope17

Hi,

Depending on the levels of debt and who you owe monies to you may consider a telephone call to Stepchange Debt Charity who can offer you several options to perhaps get back on an even keel.

Its something I and several others on here use. Worth a call or a google search to see.

Best wishes

Hi Bal,

Thanks for that, I will have a look on that as most of my debts are from friends, maybe I could use it for the credit cards atleast. I'm planning to phone council tax and TV license on Monday hopefully they can defer me this month as it's the first time it happened. Spent the day thinking where to get money to get by this next few weeks until next payday.

-Hope17

Hi there and I totally share your anguish. For me its really not a case of controlling the urges but finding ways to block my self from gambling. I found that my biggest funder of gambling is my debit card, so I have now destroyed it and use the app on my phone to make small over the counter purchases and withdraw money which can not be above £125. I dont get any thrill from gambling with a few hundered anymore so this really helps.

Also or at least for me I find that gambling is never premediated but spontanieous and impulsive. So although you may not set out to gamble that 1 second of madness can lead you astray that is why blocking your ability for easy cash is really the key.

Hi there,

This morning I phoned the council tax office and they agree to

reschedule my payment. I've been reading about step change as well as suggested by Bal but still thinking if I can do it myself first.

My husband knows about it now. I told him last night but I can't tell him how big my debts are now. He's upset and he avoid talking about it today. So far no gambling for me for 3 days as I don't have money in my account and already blocked the sites on my phone.

-Hope17

Lasttime93 wrote: When you are thinking straight and want to stop make sure you put as many things in place to make it impossible/difficult to gamble... self exclusions, new cards or blocking cards etc.. etc.. so when you have those urges its not so easy and you have time to think it over....

This for me is one of the most important first steps. You need to make sure you can't get into this position again by making it difficult to bet again, whether that be handing over cards to someone you trust or use blocking software on your computer.
Secondly, remember how you feel right now, remember the crippling sense of worry and uncertainty. Next time payday comes around or you have an urge to gamble, think back to this moment and make sure you never feel that way again! As a recovering compulsive gambler myself, I use this feeling as a motivational source every single day, and tell myself that I will never feel that again. I never want to be awake all night worrying about how I will delay payment of bills or even afford to live.

Hi I've done the same too it's the first time on a forum so hoping to post everyday and quit this horrible addiction !!! I feel disgusted in myself but I am going to get through this hopefully with help !! I probably gamble once a month on online slots usually after payday and then like you have to be skint the whole month I have lost thousands which makes me feel sick when I think about it and just want that money back 🙁