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Really struggling with how I’m feeling at the moment .Â
Gambling has taken over my life , slowly but surely it’s destroying everything I have and the people around me.
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I’ve built up the courage to send this message after feeling probably the lowest I’ve ever felt in some time.Â
I’m a secret compulsive gambler , I keep all my issues and problems to myself which I know is only making things harder.Â
I had my first phone call with Gamstop on Tuesday which really did help and I will continue to do.Â
My girlfriend and I are currently trying to apply for a Mortgage which is filling me with utter fear and anxiety as I know I have many many gambling transactions on my bank statement .
Luckily im debt free and only gamble my own money , however I know the banks won’t like what they see , and the mortgage will be declined.Â
Gambling has and is really destroying my life day after day .
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Dear Jonny,Â
We are sorry to hear that you feel so low.
Please don’t be alone with this, we are here 24/7 and we can talk about how you feel, your gambling, and the support available for you.
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Number 1:
GET BLOCKS IN PLACE
Gamstop for online
Moses for local bookies
And Sense for uk casinos
It’s essential to do them all (you may say i only ever gamble online, or i only ever gamble in bookies) but down the line when you want to scratch that gambling itch or are impulsive like myself, Online, bookies and casinos become tempting.
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Number 2:
When you get paid, pay all bills then transfer rest to a loved one for safe keeping. Then it’s not in ur account waiting for the moment ur tempted by gambling its safe and sound and if you do really need it it’s there (either that or start to pay off highest interest debt each month (this will help massively),Â
I transfer my money to my dad and have saved a lot over the years.
I top up my sainsburys card each month when i get paid for food shopping.
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Number 3:
Limit the damage you can do with one visit to town:
The number of times in the past i’ve visited a cash machine for the bookies until i can’t get any more cash out!!!! Let’s save that!!!!
 U can limit cash withdrawals (just ask your bank)
You can not take your cards out (more difficult)
You can just take cash then all you can lose is that cash.
There is two step verification that your partner or parents can authorise your payments. (i’ve heard this is great)
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Number 4:
With this new life away from gambling you will no doubt try to life a new healthy lifestyle (one step at a time) i found that drinking was clouding my judgement and making me gamble, smoking was inhibiting my breathing, drugs id also done in the past caused my mental well being to go down and these all led my weight, stress levels and ability to do well at work to diminish. It took a breakdown in 2018 for me to realise all these habits needed to stop so i stopped one at a time to give me a better chance, smoking 2016, drinking 2018, gambling 2019…..Â
MAKE 2023 UR YEAR FOR A FRESH LIFESTYLE< KEEP ME POSTED ADAM…….
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ps i had a gambling problem 7 years ago when i was looking to get a mortgage, i done one month without gambling then went and applied and i dont earn much, it wa fine i got accepted...... all the best adam
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