I find that I'm doing all the hard work here to help OH. He was indifferent to me for a whole year unless were out socialising, left out notes of his debt for me to find straight after my major surgery, hardly engaged in the gentle discussion about the debts and the effect on our marriage (he might have ADHD so challenging discussions pointless), and let me suggest how to pay off debts. He vaguely assented to having monthly look at how the paying off debts is going, and if I ask him anything at all, even if its about what would he like to do that is more exciting than crypto trading, its - I don't know. Its a 2nd marriage so we have no accounts or assets in common and I pay all the bills but expect money towards food and energy bills. He leans on me to organise everything by trying to be inadequate with anything online or financial and is happier now that I know about his debts from the past 6 years. This organisation has been such a relief in offering me help as an affected person, but straight after a very helpful telephone session it suddenly hit me that I may be being manipulated in a very passive way. Has anyone else thought this? I have enough income to cover my own needs but it is heavily stretched to support both of us.
Hi there I can relate to the crypto addiction via trading I myself never traded instead I bought and held in the rare hope that my selection would be a winner in the long run
What tends to happen is that as your portfolio falls in value you sell other solid assets to double down and yes you guessed it you go double down eighty percent of the time
You think you are smarter than the system in place to extract your funds so yes manipulation is very common in order to empty out good assets Best
Hi
The word manipulation use to be my old unhealthy life.
The thinking it is my way or the high way was very unhealthy thinking.
I use to try and control life people aand situations and all I did was feeeling frustrated and dissapointed.
For me manipulation is very unhealthy.
Today for me nurturing and encouraging was is very healthy.
Sadly I use to hurt my self and others by being so unhealthy.
Today by me respecting my self I am able and willing to respect all other people.
The question is how healthy am I today.
The question is how healthy do I want to be.
Do I love and value my self.
Do I respect and value my self.
Every time I went back to my addictions and and obsessions indicated how emotionally vulnerable I was.
Love peace and healing to every one.
Dave L
Dave of Beckenham
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