Hi - I've been gambling for about 15 years. I accrued a lot of debt and entered into an iva last year. I thought that this would help with my gambling as no access to funds. I've now gambled all our savings and know that I have to stop gambling. I'm married with a young son and I gamble in secret - online. I haven't gambled since Saturday so this is my second day bring clean.
Just wanted to say hello and any advice would be appreciated - thank you
Hi i feel anyone who posts on here deserves a reply. So hi to you, advice phew - this site is pretty awesome on advice, look around here there is advice on how how to stop gambling and how to move forward. That is the real problem for many (me included) stopping and moving on (drawing a final line under the losses). Most gamblers who get to posting on here are in need of help one way or another and also are 75% of the time here because they have chased their losses too many times. It's taken me a long long time to re-alise the original funds are never coming back. That is the real crux if the problem, drawing a line (the last gamble has been made) then grieve the losses and re-establish your life - Good Luck.
Hi thanks for the reply. I'm on day three now and I know I have got to try. I feel awful when I think about the damage I have done to my family. However i have to be positive and remain resolute in my decision not to gamble - one day at a time .......
Hi MrsMooMoo..
I have only joined today and saw your message.... I too have losses that I feel guilty about 🙁 ....
I have squanded money that would have done so much for the family :-/
ps ... I too have a young family....
Hi pizza queen
I know exactly what you mean. My little boy turns 4 soon and his birthday is just a couple of days after christmas . He wants everything he sees on TV and I know we can't afford to give him a lot. However I can always find the money to gamble
I have got to stop as I have got to the stage where I can't withdraw - always thinking that there will be a massive jackpot on the next spin to sort out all my problems
Never happens - five days gamble free today. Got to do it for my family as well as my sanity !!!!
Hi im new too this but as yourself gamble in secret was the odd ten pounds which was great and I seemed too always take a small win a coulle of hundred a time this last few months ive managed too get myself into a whopping 1000 debt chasing the money back n didnt withdraw when I did win abit telling myself the next win will be the answer im so ashamed of myself and have no one too talk too about it, my partner would surely just mock me leave me and use it against me where our son is involved, todays my first day stop ive excluded myself from the sites and need too get my act together too at an all time low at the mo as I know how tight things are gonna be now paying it all back
Okies - I reached desperation stakes tonight and registered at 2 new bingo sites but self excluded before playing - I feel silly but the gambling urge was so strong - fool I cannot resist !!!!
Hi Tappy
i think we were posting at the same time - that's my problem is chasing the next big win. Never satisfied with a break even or a small win. I do withdraw and then the withdrawal doesn't make it past the pending withdrawal stage as I reverse it back thinking I can win more!!!!!!
I feel sick thinking about the things my son can't have due to my stupidity.
i signed over 20k to an iva last year and even this hasnt stopped me. I honestly don't know what if anything will stop me.
I have a decent job, a nice home, lovely husband and gorgeous son. This isn't enough I seem to want to jeapordise everything we have .....
I can completly relate I told my partner this morning as I didnt sleep yet again and needed the truth too be out there he left after telling me I make him feel sick all time low at the mo and the urge too escape into a whirl of the slots is high but fighting day 2 today on a plus note I also told my dad and close friend who have not judged and offered there support think im gonna need it this next few weeks well done on self excliding before playong on the two new sites good luck
I think you are really brave. My husband and support network are completely in the dark about my problem. I remember trying to tell my husband before we got married and I couldn't go through with it.
I have self excluded and have a blocker on the laptop. My biggest stupidity comes on my iphone as there's no blocker available.
I'm sure your partner has said things in anger and shock. You are making positive steps Tappy - just stay strong and know that you have support around you
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