I have to admit that I've probably had a gambling problem for longer than I can even remember. This last one has really hit home. I owe so much out that this one I can't even afford to pay any of it, I literally have £60 left (im surprised I stopped there) to last me the whole month until the 25th August. It's been really bad and more so when I'm working (I don't see the point in working anymore) I just blow my whole wages like I'm living to have a quick gambling spree. I didn't even even reach 2 full days after my wages went in this time...it really hit home and all I could think of was ending my life, I can't go through the shame and embarrassment of having to explain where my money has gone, mostly to my family. I don't know what to do! I have done this (normally pay most of things off) for the past 10 years ever since I hit one big win on a day where I was just finishing college and about to go home. The bug hit and I'm sick and tired of all this online advertising, television advertising, hundreds of bookies close by...it's too hard not to give in!
I'm going to make it my goal to cut it out once and for all, once I get paid, withdraw all my cash out and give it to someone who I know won't give me it easily for anything (my mam) it's all I can think of to try and stop this. I still haven't told them of course yet what has happened.
I really could do with urgent help but don't know where to even start...
Sorry for going on...
hey mate, im on the early shift at the airport so here if you need to talk.... right now with the feelings your are having just take a deep breath and remember its only money... a year and a half ago i was in your situation thousands of pounds in debt no one trusted me i had stolen from my partner [now wife], parent, jobs etc etc to fund my habbit and i was at rock bottom... fast forward 18 months and i am nearly done paying off my debts have taken my partner and daughter to florida [we got married out there] and am now happier than ever with my life.... it will take time and that money will magically never come back to you so just forget about the money... yes i did have to work hard 6 nights a week at 12 hour shifts and any overtime to pay it back, but i did it and could not be prouder of myself.
my biggest advice to you is tell someone that is close to you just so you can openly talk about it, yes you will probably break down to them but it is such a massive weight off yuor shoulders and they will not judge you as they are a close family or friend but they will want to help.... i would also say dont take any hand outs if they are offered to help you i did this early on and it just sets you free again to gamble...
out of interest what is it you gamble on?, mine was sports [if you can call z league taiwani badminton a sport haha]
tunnie x
Hey mate,
Thanks for the response. It's good to see people can kick the habit I just wish I could've done this a long time ago. I probably could have if I put my mind to it but I guess I didn't want to admit then that I had the problem.
I tend to bet on horses and football mainly but they're not actually the problem (only when I've lost on the slots/ roulette do I start to chase on anything possible) - it's the slot and roulette which is the big problem, no matter if I win or lose I'll just keep on going till it's gone, every time!
It's affecting my life in a negative way, already suffer with depression and anxiety and I do generally gamble more when these are bad but it obviously makes them a lot worse when the reality hits on what I've done. I guess I'm embarrassed to ask for help more than anything as I think it will just disappear if I say nothing (obviously I know this is not true)
Good to see a good news story though, keep it up mate!
dude you are me a year and a half ago.... chasing losses is what kills us i remember once taking out a credit card with a 2 k limit and used it to put a 1k bet on an 8-1 shot..... just try try and fix everything.... like i said the money is gone and never coming back, the only way to get it back is to earn it....
do you have a close friend to tell, i told mine which was really hard a i burrowed money from him [lied about what i needed it for] and gambled that away too, he was really understanding and was good as i told him what to look out for if he thought i was doing it again... any friend who is a true friend will not judge you mate.
i was suffereing with depression to and working nights did not help... just read through the threads on here too give you insperation and always here to talk even if you just want to say that you have an urge to gamble...
tunnie x
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