Hi there ive had issues with gambling for a few years now and I'm really struggling not to relapse again ,my partner is supporting me the best she can but I find us arguing more because of my need to gamble ,I've put my self on gamban and gamstop but yhe urge is getting so bad I've thought of going to betting shops ,any advice would be great as I am really struggling with this awful addiction thanks tommyÂ
 Hi Tommygun39
You are not alone in the way gambling can occupy daily lives for people.
There is plenty of support available to you and you have made a really positive step today by posting. Well done for adding Gamstop and Gamban , you can self exclude from bookmakers in your area by calling MOSES on 0800 294 2060.
Please feel free to contact the GamCare Helpline on 0808 8020 133 or Netline to explore the additional support available to you. We are available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week if you would like to talk to one of the GamCare HelpLine advisers.
All the best in your recovery
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@absentee I've got many things that occupies my days,I've had a really rough couple of weeks with my mother being in hospital it's been very stressful and thinking of gambling calms me in a weird way like a realase ,I know I have a problem and i am taking steps to fight this addictionÂ
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Gambling changes the brains chemistry and way of thinking. Dopamine is a drug and gambling fuels it, it changes the joy in life making past or old activities not receive the same amount of 'feel good' reward.
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It is a horrible disorder and probably the easiest to get into but the hardest to overcome.
@mobilephone I understand what your saying it is horrible because some days it's all I'm thinking about even when I'm busy working or other thingsÂ
Tommy, I feel for you as it seems like you are in the grip of addiction with no easy way to face the future ahead without caving in to your gambling urges. And even with all the pressures and heartache around you there is still a way to stay strong willed and hold firm. It's always the easy route to gamble or drink alcohol as the desire seems overwhelming, but we must keep on reminding ourselves that to do so will only lead to further pain and distress. Tommy, you can beat this addiction. Keep on reaching out for support, you are not alone.Â
I’m currently on day 59 and I’m finding my old urges coming back, but just think what does gambling actually bring you? Except misery, stress, depression, anxiety, and self loathing? Think back to a time you felt so low from gambling you didn’t know if you would pull through. Do you want to feel like that again? Or do you want to be proud that today was another day you didn’t gamble? It’s so hard to keep strong, but I promise you my mental health has already improved ten fold just from stopping for 58 days. You deserve to be happy and not live a life of misery, you owe it to yourself to find happiness again  🙂Â
My worth fears came true on Monday my lovely nan passed away gonna be a uphill struggle from hereÂ
Hi @tommygun39.
I'm very sorry to hear about the loss of your Nan and the pain you are experiencing currently.
Grief is tricky to navigate, and if you feel you need some support with this, Cruse can help -
Please continue posting and sharing on the forum, and if you need any further support, please do contact one of our advisers on the Helpline on 0808 8020 133 or Netline.
We're here for you and you're not alone.
Take care,
Phoebe
Forum Admin
Well 4 days gamble free now ,someone at work mentioned they had a big win on the slots and it didn't really fazz me I spose thats a good thingÂ
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