Third (and FINAL) relapse, nearly cost me EVERYTHING!!!

Hi, Well done for those first 11 days... this is a major breakthrough for you and choosing to walk this journey again just have taken some heavy heart guts... so this is why you deserve the ‘Well Done...’

Just so you know we are all here thinking of you and sending you our best thoughts and hopes for your gambling free future!

If you REALLY want to stop gambling then promise yourself to just keep opening up this website, even every hour at the start if needed, if you think your brain is stretching you away And tempting you to the ‘other’ actual gambling sites...!

There is a triangle of three important things i use to stop me from gambling... simply this;

Money.

Time.

Access.

Stop ANY one of these three things then you CANT gamble. SIMPLE.

Take away your money... give ALL access to your money, cards, bank accounts, loans, cash, EVERYTHING monetary wise, to someone you can trust and know will look after it to support you.

Take away your time... All the time you spent gambling now has to be filled with something else... I chose to write a journal to record all my thoughts about my gambling and how its hurt people around me...? I wrote for about four or five weeks solid... BUT I did not gamble in that time so it worked for me..

Access... Denying yourself access to something that you feel is a given right is a difficult thing to accept for most of us, but is most likely the MOST important thing for you, or someone very close to you, to undertake. Self-Exclude immediately is my advice, from wherever you can. Then, once this is done, GET SOMEONE ELSE to go onto each and EVERY site you EVER used to gamble and self-exclude from ALL of them... forget any ‘pence or pounds’ you have on any account, its gone! Give over your phone, iPads and access to any pC,s etc... Sounds a bit strong but if you do this then the embarrassment and shame WILL help you to stop... but will ALSOI give your friend/partner a tiny bit of confidence that you REALLY mean this!

Remember... you ONLY need to remove ONE of these things to stop yourself gambling. If you remove two or all of them then great, you will have given yourself the best of chances.

I wish you the best in your journey and just know that whatever you have felt or done to support your gambling then there are thousands that have done much worse, but have come out the other side better people.

Blessings,

John Pops.

John Pops

thanks for your kind words, I attended my first virtual GA meeting last night, day 12.

9419

Hiya

Thank you for posting. I went through similar with my husband. I made the decision to quit about 6 months ago. The lying and manipulation are terrible with gambling. You sound like you really love her and you've had a taste of life without her. This should be enough to make you wanna quit. 

Thing is you have to want to quit FOR YOU! only you have the key to your success and your the only one that can stand in your way.

I've had CBT on here you could try that I stead of meetings. It worked for me and opened my eyes. 

I also read a book by Alan Carr. He made me think of things differently too. It is worth a read. I was skeptical but it helped me MASSIVELY

now i am 194 days gf, I never thought I'd made it to 10 after ten years. 

YOU CAN DO THIS 

Spend ?

Hi, just wanted to say well done for being so pro-active in putting blocks in place and to wish you the best of luck in your job hunting.

Take care.

Hi Silee

thanks so much for your kind words, every days a school day x

Hi Spend

thanks for your kind words, what Alan Carr book was it and why you think it helped so much?

HUGE kudos on you GF streak, a year GF is closer than you think 

Hey 9419

Well done on everything that you've achieved so far and by putting the blocks etc etc into place.

It may be a long road ahead ( I am just starting mine) we start it at least with our destiny in our own hands

Packer

Great Stuff Packer, stay strong, stay safe, stay GF Xx

19 Days GF, We Continue Xx

Hi on the more of the triangle as u only gamble in bookies if ur going into town don't take ur cards with u just a small amount of cash gotten off ur wife as she will now have control of the money after bills! Then when u come back u will have something to show for the cash, the cash still or you've gambled again .  but you will only be able to gamble that cash no more  because u won't have ur card on you.  Simple no more money no more gambling.  Then u can relax knowing its possible.  It will be easy thru isolation times so count this as ur training wheels time , all the best

Hey Adam123

indeed mate! Covid-19 lockdown does gave its bizarre benefits.

27 Days GF, we continue ?

9419

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1 month tomorrow ?

We Continue

9419

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Over 5 Weeks GF!!

We Continue

9419

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