Told my partner..

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After struggling with gambling for about 15 years and being caught twice by my partner I’ve had to break it to him again that I have slipped up. 
We have been together for 5 years and I feel that if I lose him it will be the end of me. Why does gambling have so much control over me? Even with everything on the line I still can’t fight the urge. 

 
Posted : 10th March 2023 9:02 pm
Thebean
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Because it is an overwhelmingly addiction.  It is not your fault and it takes control.

Have you spoken with a councillor?  Put blocks in place?  If not, do so as soon as possible.

 
Posted : 10th March 2023 11:05 pm
Thebean
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Because it is an overwhelmingly addiction.  It is not your fault and it takes control.

Have you spoken with a councillor?  Put blocks in place?  If not, do so as soon as possible.

 
Posted : 10th March 2023 11:05 pm
(@dave101)
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I regularly talk to my partner about my urges to gamble and the reasons why if there are any.

Sounds silly but it helps me and helps her understand my thinking. Many a time in the past I wouldnt talk to her about it and gamble into oblivion. Now I am just fully open.bo secrets to hide.

 

Hope this helps 

 

Dave101

 

 

 

 
Posted : 10th March 2023 11:08 pm
(@adam123)
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heres some tips....welcome to the forum.... adam

Number 1:

GET BLOCKS IN PLACE

Gamstop for online

Moses for local bookies

And Sense for uk casinos

It’s essential to do them all (you may say i only ever gamble online, or i only ever gamble in bookies) but down the line when you want to scratch that gambling itch or are impulsive like myself, Online, bookies and casinos become tempting.

 

Number 2:

When you get paid, pay all bills then transfer rest to a loved one for safe keeping.  Then it’s not in ur account waiting for the moment ur tempted by gambling its safe and sound and if you do really need it it’s there (either that or start to pay off highest interest debt each month (this will help massively), 

I transfer my money to my dad and have saved a lot over the years.

I top up my sainsburys card each month when i get paid for food shopping.

 

Number 3:

Limit the damage you can do with one visit to town:

The number of times in the past i’ve visited a cash machine for the bookies until i can’t get any more cash out!!!! Let’s save that!!!!

 U can limit cash withdrawals (just ask your bank)

You can not take your cards out (more difficult)

You can just take cash then all you can lose is that cash.

There is two step verification that your partner or parents can authorise your payments. (i’ve heard this is great)

 

Number 4:

With this new life away from gambling you will no doubt try to life a new healthy lifestyle (one step at a time) i found that drinking was clouding my judgement and making me gamble, smoking was inhibiting my breathing, drugs id also done in the past caused my mental well being to go down and these all led my weight, stress levels and ability to do well at work to diminish.  It took a breakdown in 2018 for me to realise all these habits needed to stop so i stopped one at a time to give me a better chance, smoking 2016, drinking 2018, gambling 2019….. 

MAKE 2023 UR YEAR FOR A FRESH LIFESTYLE< KEEP ME POSTED ADAM…….

 

 

 

 
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