At present I'm in the same situation, fear of telling my husband.
One thing I would say because I've nearly done it myself today is don't run away from the forum here because you feel pressure to tell your partner.
I know that it's something that I have to do even though I pretty much know that it'll probably end my 15 year marriage but the lies will destroy me before loneliness in the end, I know that.
Because I don't want this to be the end of my marriage I'm hoping that I will pluck up the courage once I've proved that I am abstaining and making a dent in the debt.
I'm very fortunate that the debt is something that I can easily resolve at the moment, even easier with my husband's knowledge and cooperation though!
I feel very stuck and scared but I know I need to be here. Stick it out and don't be tempted to run away because of the pressure to come clean, these people DON'T know your personal circumstances or mine but they've had their own pain and have done it if the other side so probably feel strongly about getting others through it too.
Its actualy more nerve wracking leading up too splilling the beans , my whole family knows now . YOU will get more support than you thought . Good luck !
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