I just came out - this is the hardest thing I've ever done and my wife took it as expected, she's shocked, hurt and at this point it's over. This was my worst fear and I need to do what I can to make it better. I have blocked myself online (self exclusion) as that was my vice, I will hand over my salary to her monthly as I don't think I have the right to handle money at this point. Any tips/advice would be much appreciated, I want to do everything I can to make this right. I work full time but need to work some evenings/weekends as I now have £7000 debt that I need to get rid of ASAP - any advice or suggestions in this regard?
I hate this, but I deserve this - she doesn't deserve any of this and if she does leave me, I wouldn't blame her.
I have not been to any counseling or meetings at this stage but I need to and would like to.
Well done for being honest this is the first step to recovery, debt could be far worse infact guy at Ga lost his home as well as his customers money and he been advised to come clean which is very hard has family more likely to have some understanding clients/customers more than likely to have no understanding and i personally wont blame them your following right steps to recovery dont stress about debts it will pay for itself
Well done for coming clean! It was the hardest thing I had ever done when I told my husband.
The debt could be far worse - I accumulated £40k worth of debt.
I hope she can find it in herself to stand by you, I wouldn’t be here today if my husband had walked away.
Gambling is an illness, it wasn’t a choice.
Good luck with your recovery
Claire x
Well done for coming clean its really hard xx
@cpparch tbh if they walked its not selfish on her part i wish my ex partner had walked away sooner because at that time nothing could have made me change with the last 10 years i began to understand this illness and since i have admitted it to be life long illness i have improved
I’m proud of you for this. I’m in a similar situation and I am in over 2k of debt myself, today I have truly come clean and I am so thankful to have people around me to support me. Big talk with the girlfriend coming up I hope she can forgive me.maybe carryington Dean could help with the debts I have just texted them today so can’t give a review about them, could try looking them up
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