Coping Mechanisms

Here is a copy and paste of one of my previous posts which may be of interest to you:

I have been researching online and googling the word "happiness". What i have learned is that nearly all the experts agree, that happiness is not something that depends on an external event but rather comes from within. Take for example going to a fancy restaurant. Maybe you have been anticipating it for several weeks thinking about how great it is going to be, and how happy it will make you. Then you go, and maybe it is ok, but you think afterwards, that wasn't so great. It was just so-so. The point is that when you look to obtain your happiness from external events, you are never truly satisfied, you have to keep searching and searching to find that nirvana. With gambling, enough is never enough. When you win, you get all excited and think you are so happy, but do you stop? No, you keep going til the inevitable losses come. The key is to use the power of your mind to create happiness within yourself independently of any external event. It takes some practice but it can be done. Just think of how you can be happy in your own skin, where you are, with what you have. Practice gratitude for the things you have rather than longing for things you don't have. When you can feel happy inside yourself without reliance upon external events, the desire to gamble goes away. It is pretty amazing. 

@gerard-g thanks for that, I will try this for sure! Have you found it useful?

well that plus i have blocks/controls in place. It is impossible for me to spend any of my wages on gambling because I don't have access to it. Better safe than sorry, 🙂