Failed!!

Hi Dilema

Sorry to hear that, your not a failure at all. I work in banking and recommend to look at getting a planned overdraft added on immediatley over internet banking or phone bank asap. So you protect your credit rating and you dont get these charges!

Remember the triangle - time money location, if you lose one you cant bet. Keep busy and be disciplined. Start tomorrow as day 1!

Hey thanks.

I can't get a bigger overdraft because I'm on a debt management plan and my credit is the worst you can possibly get but thank you u. I'm gonna start again tomorrow.

Here's hoping I can kick this.

Hi D

Can you speak to step change or the business that is looking after your debt management plan? Tomorrow is a new day and you'll soon have the days ad up!

Good luck

Happy

Happy10,

I'm trying to be polite about this but how exactly does obtaining an overdraft help another CG to break the triangle?

CW

Dilemma,

Sorry to hear that you're having a bad time of it but it may well be that your mother is resorting to tough love. You have to help yourself, it's doable but only you can do it, she can't stop you gambling. She knows this, therefore she's had to step back.

Go to GA, get one to one counselling but then it's down to you to follow the advice you're given.

CW

Hi D,

You are not a failure however the title of your post brings instant negativity.

You are caught up in the throws of a serious addiction and serious steps need to be taken to break from the circle you find yourself in.

Top advice from CW. Personally I had gamcare counselling which I went into with an open mind and my counsellor helped me understand why I gambled (for me it was the death of my wife at 30 years old and my failure to cope with my grief) and helped me put barriers in place so I would not relapse.

I was not an online gambler but barriers must be put in pace so recovery can begin. If necessary an hour or day at a time.

You can do it, but you must want to do it.

Best wishes

Thanks guys, great advice.

I want to do it, have done for months. I did have a spell where life was good I didn't gamble for 5 months.

But then my life went downhill with one of my sisters. I just started doing again. Then all these things keep happening in the family. Not good things at all. Trust me my mother isn't giving me tough love. If you think telling your daughter you should have never came to visit. I'm selfish. All because I just wanted to spend time with them through this hard time. I never really put them through anything I just chatted to them about. I never asked for loads of money to help me out or anything. It was my problem I only went to them when I just wanted a rant about how stupid I was. But now my two sisters and mother has blocked me from there life.

So now all I think about is gambling and winning so much just to make me happier. But of course we all know it doesn't.

I am waiting for CBT but they are taking ages to get back to me!!!
I have other counselling I am about to start as well.
I just hope it all works.

I believe if there was a chat room open all hours for us people we could get through it. I gamble when I can't sleep so the one between 8-9 here does help but isn't long enough.
Does anyone know of one?
Would be a massive help to me!

Hello, Dilemma

Sorry but your gambling will have affected your family. No man is an island. You may not like the tough element but the nature of tough is, well, tough.

CW

Hi Dilemma,

Sorry to hear it's difficult at the moment.

If you haven't done so already please get in touch with one of our advisors on our Freephone Helpline 0808 8020133 or the Netline http://www.gamcare.org.uk/netline for more help and support. Both lines are open ever yday from 8am to midnight.

Keep posting

Warm regards

Catarina