Everything is falling apart i have had a couple of gambling binges recently because things are changing and iam struggling to cope, my girlfriend has moved because start of her studying,we planned it for ages but now its reality,i dont think we will last, i dont even know how to get over her, my family i dont really see and plus there is bad blood there,i start study in a few weeks and can not concentrate, at work i have to deal with petty directors that just make it a horrible place to work, i want to quit but have no savings due to being a gambler, its 6 days untill payday and iam feeling very dark, iam afraid when i get paid i am going to go on a gambling binge not to win money but just because i feel its all ruined anyway so just dont try anymore because i am a total waste. How can i find a new room to live if i have to move out if the relationship ends. Am i ever going to meet anyone else, how can i get past feeling this dark? my family life is messed up, i dont have many friends, and i gamble to self destruct because iam not good enough. I have good qualities but i struggle to see them at the moment,all i want to is lock myself in the house turn my phone off smoke cigarettes and just lay on the sofa, iam so sad at the moment.
keep telling your self it will be worse when/not if, I lose all my wages.
CG are always looking for a excuse to binge i did it yesterday
And today i had to steal just to eat and will have to for the next five days
I cant even visit my kids because I gambled there maintenance money along with my rent.
Not looking for sympathy just letting you know how bad things can get with this addiction keep this in mind come payday
Put barriers in place I would recommend withdrawing all your salary in the company of a trusted friend .relative and asking them to hold it for you giving only what you need to live on.
Also keep reading the posts on this site
Hi Rob
We all get gambling binges, just to let you know your not on your own. Its extremely hard for us to not get them. In my eyes your thinking too deep and thinking as if everything is badder than what it is, think of it this way, at least you have a job so dont even think about leaving that because work is so hard to find if you had no job then you would be down in the dumps even more trust me, I lost my job before and that triggered gambling again for me, i even stole my mums engagement ring and pawned it in for a measly 70 pounds, absouletly shocking, this is what it can do to you, i was an inch from getting kicked out on the streets also my whole family didnt want to know me, i nearly tore the family apart, just because of me, so selfish! this could happen to you and you wouldnt realise untill it happened!
you are not a total waste at all, you are far from it, you have a job, a girlfriend, what are you studying? you have prospects in life, some people dont even have any of them! dont ever say that to yourself, take a look around you at the people that dont want a job, that do drugs all day etc.. I know its hard but you have got to be positive, positivty is the key in life to get by just tell yourself that you have got to sort yourself out, speak to people on the forums and read other peoples posts to inspire you, speak to close people in your life - your mates, explain to them you need help, believe me speaking to someone face to face really does take alot of weight off your shoulders. Like Marko says, give your wages to a trusted friend or so and ask them to hold it, limit yourself to so much a week, thats where you have to start, you need to learn the value of money, I do too! we all do!
be strong mate dont feel down and sorry for yourself it will get you no where and only make things worse!!!
Dear Rob
You sound like you are really despairing right now. You have to beleive there is hope. You've been on this forum a couple of times since 2006 but I don't know if you are taking any practical steps to stop gambling - self excluding yourself, getting someone else to look after your finances, attending counselling or Gamblers Anonymous? If you give us a call on the Helpline on 0808 8020 133 or chat to us on the Netline, we can tell you about these options and more.
I know you feel pessimistic about the future of your relationship and that can't help, but how do you know that your relationship won't survive the distance? Many do.
Concentrate on recovering from your gambling addiction. Posting here is a great first step. Are you ready to take the next step and give us a call?
Best wishes
Forum Admin.
Thanks for your kind words, I had a good sleep last night so feel bit better today. I know gambling just to lose is not the way forward and I fully understand that problems would feel less if i had my wages still when i get paid monday, so i hang on to the thought that if i did gamble on monday i would feel a whole lot worse, i think iam just going to throw myself in to my studying which starts next week i feel good when iam learning and solving complex equations.
Yes if you think like that it will help a great deal, that's how I think. Get into your studying and focus on that and your life around you, focus on rebuilding your relationships and your life will be a lot happier and better and you won't even think about gambling, hang in there mate
I think you really need to decide what you will do on Monday when you get paid. Good intentions aren't enough. Can you stash what you don't need for everyday things somewhere or give it to someone you can trust to look after it for you? You need to do all you can. It's a vicious circle in that you can't feel better when you are gambling but the bad feelings often push you back to gambling. Give yourself a chance and call Gamcare.
No exactly how u feel i have been on a gambling bindhe for months now it just keeps getting worse. I got some money off my parents for a deposit for a house... I had no intention of keeping the money i gambled it all straight away. I feel worthless all the time i am constantly depressed about my gambling and hate myself for it. The one thing that gets me through is the hope that it can change and it can get better and you can turn your life around
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