I hate myself
I have the most supporting and caring people around me you could ever dream off and yet I keep gambling, for the third month on the trot I've now gambled 90% of my wage, the other 10% I luckily don't see as it goes straight to my mum, but why do I keep doing this, it's been going on for a couple of years now and everytime I'm skint I go from depressed to looking forward to payday and a ''fresh start'' but as soon as I'm alone again that's it, I'm honestly beggining to contemplate stopping this the only way I know how, I can't keep living like this, I can't sleep, I feel numb, I dont' want to eat, just want to stay in bed everyday wishing the world would just swallow me up, I can't keep lying but I can't tell the truth either, literally breaking down. Please give me some sort of advice to just make all of this stop because I clearly can't and it's literally killing me.
hi Lucky,
Most on here know exactly how you feel.
There is no miracle way to stop, it's pretty hard and seems easier just to pop to the bookies or deposit some money online. Although ask any of the people who've managed to stop for a long period of time and they'll tell you of all the benefits that come with not gambling in time.
You mentioned you've got caring people around you which is great, don't be too ashamed to tell them or ask them for help.
Then it's about starting to put in some protection to stop yourself making it worse every pay day. You mentioned your mum gets 10% of your pay, perhaps she should get the 90%!
Gambling is often irrational and very intelligent people end up doing very stupid things! Counselling allowed me to understand what was making me gamble, perhaps look into gamcare counselling or GA, both are free.
Read a few diaries on here, see what people are doing to stop gambling and see you are not alone
This problem is widespread and gamblers tend to keep everything secret with lies so the more you open up about it the better you'll feel and more solutions will appear!
Good luck!
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Take it one day at a time. Fight the urges with focussing on something else. See if you can keep coming back here every day for a month. Reading the stories really help.
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