What does the 90 days in Gam Anon mean?

If your husband is the gc he wouldn't be in gam anon he would be in the other group, gam anon is for the partner of a cg the 90 days is what they ask you to commit to at the least as in give it 90 days to see how you feel about it .

Hi

Im not sure but sometimes target amounts whether it be 1 day or 1 year are helpful to mention. people who attend gam anon will be along to advise you

However this is based on the right measures like blocks and monitoring. Living on a tiny allowance and monitoring of finances are very important as willpower alone is extremely difficult.

Its actually more about the serenity to realise that he must never be complacent. My view is dont worry too much about days if you can see the right measures in place and working on a day to day basis.

A medical check up is very important so a visit to the doctor is very important for him. Indeed you may need a chat with the doctor over this as its very helpful

Its so difficult for family as they need eyes wide open and learning about a complex form of mind control. Its an addiction so complex that is often more about self harm or escape than the money.

There is hope for you all. It can be controlled and beaten. Im so glad he is going to gam anon. Are you monitoring his attendance in any way?

You will need counselling over this and Im so glad you are on the forum

Best wishes from everyone on the forum

It's the idea of daily meetings to start with, the recommendation to aim for 90 GA meetings in 90 days.

I'd be wary of saying 90 meetings in 90 days; I'd argue that's too much.

I'd prefer to say it's a invisible stake in the ground; give GA 90 days effort and if it doesn't work- then feel free to return to the pain.

I've always thought it's to do with the theory about it taking 90 days to break a habit which fits in with the posts about giving GA a proper try.

It originates from rehab centres in America. American health insurance will cover your stay in rehab for only 90 days. So treatment centres set their programs around that time frame. So amongst other things you would do there, you would also do 90 meetings in 90 days. People have then taken this to mean even though they havnt been to rehab, that 90 days has some relevent significance.

Thanks for your replies. I think I have been confused over GA and gam anon, I just thought they GA was the shortened, form I did not realize they were two different things. He is attending 4-5 days per week for the last 2/3 weeks. My life is a total mess and we no longer live together. I started counselling last week and was hopeful that me going to that and him going to the GA meetings would help us but I really am not sure if our relationship can survive this. I cannot go back to how it was. I am devastated for me and the kids. He hasn't gambled as far as I know and has no access to money. But still, I don't even know what is going on anymore with anything....sorry I am blabbering on, just feel so low.

I go to GamAnon and I'd highly recommend it, there's no substitute for meeting others in the same position and swapping experience, support and wisdom.

CW

I too go to Gam Anon and second CW. I have been going for 3 years and highly recommend giving it a go.

Cathyx

Hi, I went to it last night. Feel I will need it more than once a fortnight though! Esp as if I can't get a babysitter or something comes up there is a month to wait between meetings. But I did find it useful and it is good to know that i am not alone in this.