Why oh why

Keep the head up Adam we all make mistakes. I've done similar to yourself went over 150 days clean then blow a hell of a lot and had to ask my parents to help cover the debt (after they swore they wouldn't do it if I messed up)

They were furious with me (like your fianc will be with you) but over time they have forgiven me and have been a huge help in getting me back on the straight and narrow.

Hope same happens for you mate 🙂

The saddest thing of all here is yet again total disrespect has been shown to those who care the most.

When will you guys learn that you can't win on the machines!

Dave

Dave UK I think your post is totally out of order. Gambling is an addiction, these guys need our support - they have been gamble free for 150+ days and we should be being positive about that instead of the blip Adam has now had. He needs our support. Do you not realise saying things like this can push folk over the edge. A tragedy has recently happened to an extremely popular young guy who couldn't face letting his love ones down once again and he did the ultimate act of taking his life. Only in the days after did he become apparent how much loved he was but there is no going back. Please give support not comments like this.

Adam my heart goes,out to you. I hope your fianc is understanding and you get the help you need.

Mo

Totally agree Mo 150+ days is excellent. Just hold on a minute though before you start saying what is and what isn't out of order.

When I first starting posting on here about 8 years ago I posted along the same lines as you have over the past 3 or so months. I soon realised that just saying what people wanted to hear did little to help them to stop. If you look through my posts rather than react to just one of many hundreds you will notice I mix encouragement with trying to get people to take responsibility, face reality and think about the effect they are having on those who's trust and support they continually abuse.

I wish nobody malice and you will find if you read through the posts other members have put on here, those who have managed to kick the gambling habit are those who have taken full responsibility and learned from the past. Continuing the same patterns of behaviour and getting the same results is not learning.

I am glad you are encouraging others Mo - please be careful not to lash out at others who take a different approach to you. Once you have been posting for 8 or so years you may think differently to you do now.

Well done on the 150+ days Adam - please don't abuse the love your fianc is showing you as everyone has a point where they just can't help anymore.

Dave

I agree in part with what DaveUK says that I need to take responsibility.

Gambling addiction is a serious illness that affects many. Am i saying that everyone on here is an addict? That's not up to me to decide but there is a criteria if anyone is interested.

I've taken responsibility for my addiction today and am getting the help. For years I didn't and I walked around in denial. I thought i could stop on my own or that my problem wasn't that bad.

All the best Adam. Hope you get some help when your ready including some on this site.

Tri

Firstly thanks guys for your messages,i really do appreciate them.

I have spoken to my fiance and explained what I did. We have now put barriers in place to help stop the same thing happening again.

I realise that ultimately it is my mindset that needs to change. With that in mind I visited my gp today and have been refered for CBT which I hope will help a lot.

Adam x

Hi Adam,

Its great to see you have been referred for CBT.

I have done 3 sessions so far and am delighted with the results....so much happier in myself.

Have a look at my last post on the recovery diaries if you get a chance.

CBT will bring out the best in you. It is deep stuff but well worth it. I couldn't keep away from online slots. Now I don't even do the lotto. Its Day 44 for me.

I wish you all the best.

Suzy