A new life

Jaq

Welcome to the diaries section i hope you continue to find a wealth of support and advice here too.

I hope too your son starts a diary as i know it has helped many others.

My advice is the same as was given to me when i started out upon my journey just over a year ago.

There is a triangle

Time -money - location.

Take one away and the punt becomes impossible.

At it i believe all compulsive gamblers wear the same gambling goggles which distort our view and lead us down the same destructive path.

Through abstinence we see there is a life to live, one which makes us winners!!

The thing ironically we chase whilst gambling.

Keep hold of those finances it will help.

One day at a time life will improve.

Just for today

no bet, tomorrow will be bettered.

Duncs stepping forward never back

Jaq

I have regularly kept an eye on your thread in the New comers page and firstly want yo say well done for your continued commitment..if your son is reading then I want to tell him that he is a very lucky man indeed.

I would imagine coming on here and reading through some of the horror stories from other posters especially after your son opening up for you must have been hard.

Anyway this diary is just as much for you as it is for him so feel free to vent anger, frustrations and to ask questions

Good luck with your son Jaq i do hope he atleast reads on here even if he does not wish to start a diary.

Thanks Duncs and Land for your welcome to the recovery diaries.

Reading stories on this site were hard for me, but also gave me hope that he can beat this horrible additction. I know he has a long road to travel and I hope so much that he keeps on the straight and narrow.

He has so much to live for - he has just received promotion at work and has a lovely new girlfriend that he adores, both of these have been a long time coming to him ... so perhaps 2013 will be his year.

Keeping access to his accounts are important to me and he has also said he finds each day easier knowing that he can't just spend spend spend when he has the urge.

Well thank you again - your support means so much to me x

Hi Jaq,

I posted on ur new members thread, just wanna say it's gr8 that u have started a diary.... U will get lots of support here 🙂

Stay strong xxxx

Thanks Charlotte - yes I remember your post on the new members ... I often re-read them if I'm feeling down and need some strength.

Support is very important to me - I'm always worrying about 'slip ups' perhaps that's the mother in me !!

Taking one day at a time - but worried my son has gone very quiet again and not talking as much.

We're off to counselling on Tuesday so I'm hoping this will be good for us both

Thanks again for your post and have a good week-end x

Hi Jaq,

I was hoping you'd get over here and start a recovery diary. I've also been following your thread in the new members section. Glad you're here. Welcome.

Pleased to hear you're son is still going strong. When/if he feels up to coming on here and introducing himself, we will all welcome him with open arms. He has a great mum.

Have a nice evening.

Bilko

oh Bilko thanks a lot ... have been wanting to write a diary but thought maybe I shouldn't be here ...as I am the one supporting ...but here I am !!

Oh wow this site has been my focus and everyone that has posted here and on the new members site has inspired me ... i draw my strength from here .

I do worry about my son he keeps everything to himself - he needs to open up ... maybe in time

Thank you for your post saying I'm a good Mum that means so much to me, I often feel I have missed something and I'm not the all singing all dancing Mum I should be ! its tough being a single parent !

I do worry about him but I guess that's what Mum's do ... I just want him to be honest with me I can't bear the deceipt and lies - I do so hope they have stopped ... sorry for the 'rant' but feel better now !! I hope my diary will help others that are supporting sopmeone on the road to recovery

Hope we all have a good week-end - love and happiness to all xx

Day 24 for my son and all is good - he is working hard and I think this is keeping him focused. He works in the hospitality industry and usually works split shifts with time to waste during breaks (and usually that when he visits the bookies). fortunatley he has just got promotion and can not leave the building, so this is helping him with his recovery.

I am still keeping track on his finances and will prpbably do this for a while !

Hope you all have a good Saturday evening and enjoy the rest of the week-end x

Keep focused, keep posting and stay positive x

Day 25 - all is good had a long chat with my son last night when he came in from work and he seems very positive.... but sometimes I fear the worse, especially when I read some posts and worry that there will be a relapse, but all I can do is take one day at a time and at the moment that seems to be working.

Pretty dull day at home, did some decorating and just about to go to bed ready for work tomorrow.

Counselling on Tuesday for both of us so looking forward to a positive week x

Counselling for us both tomorrow ... will let you know how it goes

Keep up the good work x

Hi Jaq,

Just popping in 2 say I hope the counselling goes well 4 u and ur son 2moro 🙂

Stay strong xxxx

Charlotte, thank you will give you an update tomorrow - hope you are well and had a good beginning to the week x

Day 27 ... went with my son to his first counselling session.

Arrived and no one there !!! managed to reach them on the phone and asked to come back in an hour !! off for coffee.

Returned in an hour and my son asked lots of questions and paperwork to fill out - half way through the session this lovely young lady tells my son she would not usually take on anymore clients but really wants to work with my son as she sees some problem areas that she would like address straight away. He starts his one to one sessions with her next week and seems very positive, she gave me hope - hope you all had a good Tuesday x

Hi Jaq,

How r u?

I'm glad the counselling went ok 4 u, ur son is lucky 2 have u supporting him 🙂

U should be soooo proud of urself 🙂

Stay strong xx