Back to square one

Hi AS

Welcome back and doing the right thing to come back here

Try not to be too distraught you have done bloody well to have abstained since last November so you can do it

You will learn and be stronger than you already are after a slip

It's funny how when paying out for anything beyond our control or that we don't think is fair we want to have a bet to get the money back but we know deep down it does not work that wAy

Keep going you have proved you can do it

Best wishes Suzanne x

I know I was so happy. I have never gone past a bookies without wanting to go in the whole time though. I want that feeling to go away. I have been saving so hard then undo my hard work in a day of stupidity. Has anyone got any ideas of how to stop that urge to go in. I always fight it off then as soon as I had to pay out for something behond my control I turned to gambling straight away

Hi AS you need too be strong an realise that you will never win cause you don't know when too stop it's the same of the rest of us on the site. We are compulsive gamblers an always will be, but we can stop it no body else can. The bookmakers will take an bleed every last penny out of you. You need too see them as the bad penny the bad penny that you will never cross hands with again. Be firm, strong an determined. Good luck Stay on the site an focused

AS

well done for finding the courage to admit you have been gambling again,addiction will always be there to try and tempt you back into it's arms.

There is no cure,no magic potion,but there is a choice that choice is abstinence.It is a life choice,my advice embrace it.

Stopping gambling is the start,it gifts you the chance to embrace life,it gifts you LIFE

my advice simple

Self exclude from those bookies,I still self exclude today from new bookies that arrive on the high street,why??

simply because I can,it is like a suit of armour, one of my making,one which gifts me strength when I hit a bump in the road.

Put the loss behind you,learn from it.

Duncs stepping forward never back

Well I am home from work and that's the first day I have not gambled since I started again. All I though about all day is the money I lost. Very hard to resist going back in and trying to win it back.

Hi AS,

I've been in your position on that day 1 so many times, you've overcome that first hurdle in not going into the bookies to turn one loss into another loss. Obsessing about the money lost is difficult to avoid, and I can't tell you that there is a great way to stop yourself from getting the urge to walk into the bookies.

You've taken the first step today, and although you can't regain the money you've lost, by making the right decisions in the days, weeks and months to come, you can make sure you don't dig a bigger hole. I've been trying to fill that black hole in my finances for ten years, and the only way to fill it in, is to make sure it isn't leaking out into gambling losses while you're shovelling money in at the other end.

All the best

Ryan

I think that's a great bit of advice ryan. How are you doing now? How long since you last gambled? I can't stop thinking about the lost money. Coming on here really does help me though. Two days without going in now. Pressure will be off once next pay day comes around then I can concentrate on money in that month rather than money I lost the month before.