Help me please god

Hey
Sorry to hear you so distressed. ..no magic answers or quick fixes im afraid...
Compulsive gambling addiction in whatever form of play can't be controlled over night....
Give the helpline a ring love...you've got nothing to loose
Good luck x

Thanks for your reply! I only got access to just under 600 anyway so day 1 for me today

Do you still think you can control your gambling yourself?

Don't matter if you got acess to £6
£600
£60000
You'll loose the lot eventually....and some more most probabally. ...
It's all about choice and change love....but that's up to you ...good luck

I think over the last 20 years of being a gambler it's impossible for me to stay in control! It olny takes a split second were at times I thought I try a tenner on a Fobt and next thing you know i,am chasing it and going home a grand down! I will never EVER be in control! I am a compulsive gambler at the worst rate! The times were I have lost and thought never again and read all gambling forums and even how people commit sucide and the next few days I feel in control but then after about a week it's like my mind changes from thinking like this and a blow a silly amounts! First I win for a few days but only 50 to 100 pounds by betting a horse at a higher price and laying it off but some days I don,t win anything if all the horses get beat but don,t lose either so it's like a no lose gambler and I am happy to stop being in a bit of profit and not go on and try and win 1000s. Buts then as I always been a compulsive gambler I start to just lay horses to I think will lose and dogs too, I would lay a 2 to 1 shot to win 50 or lose 100 and this would work out a couple of times but as always you lay a winner and then my head goes and I start to chase like crazy and its like I can,t wait to get my money back! Something like a higher power takes over me! 3 months ago I had a massive lost of 2500 chasing! I gave up for about six weeks and went back and had losses of 1200, 800, 1400,1700,and Yestreday 1000! Crazy amounts and its on my mind all the time these losses and I feel so guilty as my girlfriend mum died about 4 months back and she's been waiting for months to get her mums will out to share between her and her brother and sister and she can,t get her ashes out until she pays 1200 and in that time I lost those crazy amounts! Maybe I deserved to be tortured like this by these gambling demons or evil forces or whatever! I,am lucky I still got about 9 grand of savings and I,am not working ATM. But the money I lost in these last few months is killing me! The thing is I am so kind with money too and love buying things for my gf and mum and always look for savings on buying things ect! It's just crazy this addiction! I feel i cannot cope with the losses and just want to go asleep and not wake up at times! It's like the bookies have trapped me! This is hell for me right now!

Hi Walk on water,

Thanks very much for your post; I think it got some reminders/ lessons in it we can all learn from.

When you’ve been gambling for 20 odd years, and you’re still losing heavy amounts like that, then it brings to your attention to do something about it, and you posted here to reach out for that help. It also tells you that the bookies will always win you, and that you need a lot of effort to refrain from gambling money that you know you can’t afford to lose or, money that you meant for something important but, that is what most gamblers struggle with.

Having said that, I’m also aware that it’s difficult to try and stop gambling problem by yourself; most people need professional help to do that. I will therefore suggest that you contact our free phone Helpline on: 0808 8020 133, and speak to one of our advisers for more help. Gamcare is ready to help and support you every step of the way if you follow the advice we offer you. Our lines are open every day from 8.00am to midnight.

We can also sign-post you to other charitable organisations if we think you’d benefit from their services.

Also, I advise that you go and see your GP about your depression in case you haven’t done that already.

Meanwhile, continue to read the post from our Chatroom/ Forum, and try and apply the strategies from all the people that you can identify with, ok?

Keep going, and keep posting too!

Kind regards,

Beatrice

You would think after 20 years of this torture I should of been gamble free for 10 years and given out advice on here to you all on how to stop but no the cycle have repeated for 20 years! Its insane when you think of how can you not learn your lesson after 20 years! Thats like a life prison sentence! All I been for 20 years Is like a hamster on a wheel in a cage getting no were!

I'm 36 and have been sharing that wheel with you for 20 years also
We could talk losses for a further 10 I stopped caring about them when it eclipsed my mortgage
There's no real point worrying about could of beens and would of hads. Because unlike Michael j fox we don't have a time machine
We live in the here and now.
We can write the future or live in the past repeating mistakes like groundhog day.
Learn to let the past go and *** the future
All the best and most of all welcome
Ps don't beat yourself up

Can't believe they blanked out *****

Mate, I feel for you.

It's time to get off this crazy hamsters wheel and break out of the cage. You know it!

Need to give up your losses and confess to being well and truly beat. As with not being like your pal, your a CG. Simple, possibly he hasn't progressed to that point yet? Who knows, it's irrelevant!

One thing I've learned from this forum, it's hard to do it by your self. It's not easy, in fact it's f*****g hard, but read about it is possible.

There's help out there for this insiduos addiction as well as your depression. Reach out your hand my friend and someone will reach back and hold it.

I wish you well

Just Deano wrote: Can't believe they blanked out g r a s P

That was the break out group of past gamcare people. A group not funded by the gambling industry, people trying to make people aware.

Check out there Web site. This will no doubt be moderated and possible slap on wrist for moi

Yeah the only thing that is a positive now for me is I,am in debt really! But I should have so much more in life! But as you said we can,t go back! The best that helps me the most I think is coming on here and seeing there's others like you in the same boat! When I walked out the bookies Yestreday all sweating and feeling faint you feel not human! You think why is it only me acting this way and blowing 1000 in half an hour but when I come on here it makes me feel kind of normal again if you know what I mean. We are all fighting this addiction everyday of our life's! No compulsive gambler just wakes up one day and says "I cured, I got 200 pound on me and I will just try 20 and walk out win or lose" So we all got to remember that this illness, disease, demon or whatever we want to call it is with us till the day we die! It's VERY important to remember this! It took a split second for my mindset to be weak Yestreday to lose that 1000! I was even with my friend and he was telling me don,t lose your head now! But of course I did!

Of course you lost your head. It happens to CG's when when they put it in the head of the lions mouth of the bookies or online etc.

You need to admit that your licked by gambling. Easier said than done when it's a behavioural addiction. You need to admit that your not unique as well. Your human who progressively got sucked in and became sick/ diseased or gobbled up by the demon or what ever as you said.

Keep reading.. There's good people on here who have managed to get off the boat and now happily on dry land..

Why not walk back into the bookies tomorrow and Self Exclude and then you will be able to walk out head held high feeling proud and empowered

KTF