Fear of rejection and or abandonment, fear of telling the truth, fear of being accountable, fear of failure, fear of intimacy, fear of being let down, fear of fear of humiliation, fear of loneliness, fear of the dentist, fear of the doctors, fear of injections, fear of betrayal, fear of disappointing people, fear of what people thought of me, fear of speaking up for myself, fear of being the victim, fear of aggression and confrontation, fear of letting people down, fear of validating myself, fear of taking a compliment, fear of the doctors, fear of the opposite s*x, fear of being committed, fear of Christmas, fear of Tax time, fear of writing my needs my wants and my goals, fear of writing down the pain and abuse I experienced in my life, fear of writing down injuries to my body, fear of writing down the emotional abuse I experienced, fear of writing down the physical abuse I experienced, fear of writing down the sexual abuse I experienced, fear of being myself, fear of my failings, fear of guilt shame regret remorse, fear of therapies, fear of being a loner, fear of setting boundaries, fear of having a voice to stand up for myself, fear of strangers, fear of healing my pains, fear of being a victim, fear of not making it, fear of people faces when they got to know me.
This list seems impossible looking at them in one lump.
Fear restricted me; fear froze me in the traumas of my past.
I took my worst fear, the 10 out of 10 and I asked myself what is the very worst that can happen.
Only once I was willing to accept the very worst that could happen would the level of my fears reduce.
How many times, how many years have we feared the Tax man, or the tax period, it is the same fear year after year, then I decide to put money in each month to cover payment to the tax man, which reduces my fears.
Staying with the healthy meetings and listening to therapies I saw and felt my self in other people, both the healthy and unhealthy.
By me reducing my fears I would become more productive, I would overcome my unhealthy habit of procrastinating.
Each fear I had was a consequence of emotional scars in my life that was not healed.
How much did I want to get healthy.
How much did I want to stop hurting my self and other people.
How much time and effort did I want to invest in to me becoming a much healthier person.
Could I learn to love myself.
Could I learn to respect myself.
Could I learn to trust myself.
Could I learn to live for today only in a healthy way.
Love healing and peace to every one.
Dave L
AKA Dave Of Beckenham UK
Dave I could have wrote that myself!
Well done on being so honest, I read and re-read so many of your posts, many of the totally resonate with me!
I hope you realize how much your posts help others ?
Thank you very much for your healthy comment feed back and contact.
I would like to think that as I get healthier my fears reduce even more.
What is very powerful is the emotional intimacy I can have with all people.
I can show gratitude apprecation and have sharing with so many people.
Before my recovery I did not have a clue as to how unhealthy and emotionally vulnerable I was.
Dave L
@bettyfretty Hi
Thank you for your comment.
Yes as we work together towards much healthier lives healing our pains, reducing our fears, we no longer want to be unhealthy or emotionally vulnerable.
I could not do it on m own.
A person once said he was glad that he was a compulsive gambler.
He said by being in the recovery program he got to understand how unhealthy he was.
That the recovery program gave him the choice to heal and become a much healthier person.
Thank you.
Dave L
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