Misery to happiness

Misery to happiness is exactly it. We all got to a point where we needed to stop and this for you is that point. Stay on the road to recovery and work to battle this head on. You'll find strength and support here and you'll be able to move on from the addiction. It can take a little time and adjusting but in the end it'll be worth it. You've done the right thing in posting. It's the first in many steps towards helping you stand up and move on.

Wish you the best on your journey. Stay strong, stick it out, believe in yourself and you'll find that happiness.

-Alex

Hi HTF

Sounds like your gambling is a symptom of something else going on in your life as is the case with most CGs. Maybe give Netline a call and talk through some things with an advisor. Counselling is also a very good way to get things into context. There is an abundance of support on here you just need to stick around to see this. Get involved and above all post for you.

Take care

Hi HTF,

Welcome to this supportive site and well done for admitting you have a problem.

Many things in life can play a part in us making not as healthy decisions. But as long as we realise that it is unhealthy, we start looking at the reasons why and that's where the recovery begins. You are doing the right thing, it is not easy road, but results it brings is priceless.

As smiler just advised you, contact GC, get all the advice possible, there is a way out, everything is going to work out well, believe in yourself, you and ur loved ones are worth so many good things in life. Keep making the right choice. You are not on your own

All the best and keep posting

Sandra

Day11 took advice phoned helpline difficult face to face counselling 2 hr drive away can get phone counselling proved to problematic due to work hrs. At this point trying to organise this was becoming stressful. Not sleeping well in fact turned night into day. Feeling lost today got smoking cessation this afternoon. Feeling irritable.have tried to write in my diary and deleted several posts as when I read them back it makes me feel horrendous about what I've done seeing it .so far the calculator has been surgically attached to me it's like I'm obsessed. Feeling so many emotions at once but I have and will not gamble .

Day 11 I haven't and will not gamble note error at end of previous post feeling rather sensitive a roller coaster of emotions .away for diversional therapy will clean

Know what has really hacked me today cancelled bank card 11days ago went to bank explained about spending vast sums of money and gambling problem to total stranger so when I need cash go to bank with passport and driving license to get money not always easy . So on the system it tells them I don't have a card but the last 3 times I've been they ask why I don't have a card and would I like another one and I find my self being rude. Very vulnerable

Hi, do not worry about what surrounds you in temptation,do not feel obliged to agree,you know what its good for you,no cards,no money around,put your routines on day without gambling,keep strong,you are really near to be free again,believe me,life only gets better , im in my 8 week,gambling and smoking free,its hard but possible,sometimes i see myself with more available time that i would wish,but i found a new hobby,thats all about you !!about the people you love and care!keep strong!!!

Hey there

Noticed you had joined the 2014 challenge about the same time as me just wanted to wish you all the best with your journey and let you know your not alone ! Only on day three myself and things seem to be difficult for everyone. I have had a read of your diary and it has inspired me to keep going with my own journey. So all the best, one day at a time 🙂

Batman

Just finished work one more shift to go and hols family coming to stay excited and nervous as the topic of my previous gambling escapade will be discussed so anxious am going to tell all . Day 13 gamble free. Husband working away and need to tell him but that's my biggest fear his reaction he helped me out a yr ago and I paid him 6k back and he told me then never again and he would leave because I was putting all of us in jeopardy financially. Did i stop no it was like total rebellion. Very nasty which is understandable if he's grafting and working away and I'm here spending . Doesn't really achieve much. So I have a few big issues to work through. No understanding of the addiction .so I reckon I'm in for some life changing events which to be honest so what if he leaves the house will be sold and I will be debt free and have money to move on. I have brought boys up alone and will carry on. Do I feel sad no for my boys yes . Been with him 28 yrs. does he know me not anymore this is a result of my gambling and how as a person I have changed to allow it to rule and ruin my life .no more !

day 15 family with me for week mum knows all no easy answers just work my way through this going to decide about what to do over next week re finances and what to tell husband . Thought about gambling a lot last few days but no urges to go and open or set up any accounts because got no cards and blockers on all PC s . Having a good day. Plan to change my job going to apply for different post a change I s as good as a rest and for me a new challenge something new to focus on. So see how it goes . Keeping strong

Day16 spent day with sister told all . Helped and talked about my addiction and how I was coping and ways to overcome my anxieties or triggers. Firstly I need to be true to myself and stop living a lie and tell my husband so I can go forward so I will be having the conversation about finances and how I can manage my life .also extent of gambling I can do this so today positive headspace in good order .

Evening HTF

Hope you're doing ok Mrs - just wanted to check in, say hi and give you some encouragement.

Be really proud of yourself on going past 2 weeks gamble free.......but especially for telling those close to you. Carrying around the burden of knowing that you have to confess all to the hubbie is enough to drive you mad, so rationalizing things with sis etc. can only be a good thing. Maybe have a think about how they can support you with your finances - I'm not talking about them bailing you out - I believe that it's important for us to get ourselves out of the difficulties........I mean more from a control perspective. I would have had no chance stopping for the length of time I have if it wasn't for the fact that my mum has taken control of my cards, my cash and my accounts. It has a. Two fold benefit......one, I can't access money and two, the debt is slowly and surely being managed.

This is your time Mrs and we're here for you as and when you need us.

Well done so far and keep going, don't give in......it'll only make it worse.

Mr Brightside

Thanks mr b and Julie for encouragement and advice htfx

Staying positive. After chat with family feel I have found inner strength. A bit about me I'm an all or nothing person . Have high standards and expect perfection in all I do and am exceptionally hard on myself. I also expect the same from all those that cross my path . That sounds like I'm a right b**** . Also I'm one of those people who would help anyone as my mum says a soft touch. My sister said she loved me yesterday today and tomorrow regardless of my addiction as I was still the same person and had allowed gambling to interrupt my life so Why am i a gambler escape, boredom, loneliness stress, addictive personality I hope to find the answers or solutions to these questions on my journey. I will try not to over analize or actually think what others are thinking step back and listen htfx