"TALES FROM THE OTHER SIDE"

Thank you for your kind words on my diary.

Thanks for your post on my diary Jac.

The post that you mentioned was the one I was mainly referring to but my main concern was not what that person was doing to himself--that is his choice alone to remain as he is--but more about how others in the early stages of recovery would possibly react to such posts. The 'old lags' of us are hopefully well aware that what that person advocates is virtually impossible to believe or achieve however, this could have a detrimental effect on those still coming to terms with trying to leave the life of a compulsive gambler behind.

At the end of the day that person fools neither you nor the majority of us but you can always fool some of the people some of the time. Regrettably I fear he is fooling himself all of the time. Having said all this it is indeed his own choice.

Best wishes to Jim and yourself.

Stumper x

Hi There our guardian angel.

Thank you for your wishes in my diary.

Just wanted to come and say hi and let you know that things are ok with me and mine. Chemo is taking it out on me and my family. They hate me being ill. Last time round there were fewer side effect,so they weren't so much aware of my bad days as they are this time rond. Maybe not such a bad thing, means they have to pull their fingers out and help a bit more.

Looking forward to our little camping trip to Dorset. We're off tomorrow until Wednesday, just angel and I.

We are planning on coming down your way at the end of July. I will let you know where we will be and then maybe we can meet up somewhere. It would be so lovely to finally meet you guys.

Lots of love to you and Jim.

God Bless

Charly/ Sabine xx

Hello my lovely

gawd you had dissapeared onto page 6 cant have that now can we???????

I just read your post to ((((((Charly ))))))) and how you say how much she has helped you, i would also like to hand that 'baton' to you my friend .

Hope this warmer weather is bringing you some relief??

Talk soon

Luv ya

Kim xx

Hiya (((Kim))) and everyone who reads,

I'm still about.... Just had nothing much to say... now there's a first! lol. Weather normally helps me but not this time, been having a flare up the last couple months. Feels like every joint, tendon, ligament and muscle has joined in 🙁 even my jaws... mind you, that has to be good for Jim's ears! 😉 I may not be the gambler but my life is definitely dealt with odaat. It helps me to manage a day at a time. But then living in the moment is what life IS about.... Its all we can be sure of and should try to enjoy what we have and those around us... they are priceless 😉

I must say though, I have had good company when everyone has been at work lately... there is a new 'Male' in my life... Jim added a puppy to our household. He is absolutely gorgeous and so wonderful to watch him discovering his new family, the world around him and how it all works. Watching him seeing & hearing everything for the first time is amazing. Even the fact that he has to learn how to control his huge limbs and what they can actually do, is so funny.

Us humans take far too much for granted as we go about our lives... often with eyes & minds closed. Or worse still... constantly 'numbing out' and excluding oneself from reality. Isolating from life/living, more & more by choosing gambling instead of being with real people and achieving real goals in life.

Gambling never, ever solves your problems... Ever!

Anyway.... thoughts back to recovery, because thats ultimately why we are all here at Gamcare.... I still usually read/skim the boards here daily and I came across this in a diary today...

"Gambling no longer provides any real interest to me, it does not rule my life, it does not give me the delusion of getting rich, in fact it offers me nothing at all. I in turn offer gambling nothing--not my time, nor money nor attention.

I am better than gambling and am determined to see that gambling will never ever get the better of me again."

FANTASTIC... this IS what recovery is all about. What everyone should be striving for. No longer a slave to the addiction.

Everyone on this site can achieve this mental and physical state if they want it enough. If they put the work into and continue working at recovery... You will become free again.

REFUSE TO LET GAMBLING RULE YOU.

CLAIM BACK YOUR LIVES.

ITS NEVER TOO LATE TO CHOOSE RECOVERY.

WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR?

Enjoy the sunshine everyone, see you around sometime x

Jackie

Glad you liked my thoughts about gambling----just a shame it took me until the age of 53 to realise!!!

So you have a big floppy thing in your home that wee's everywhere--that reminds me-pass on my best wishes to Jim!--ha ha

Best wishes to you both

Stumper x

Hey Jackie,

Glad to see a post from you,I know how you feel about the weather,it doesnt seem to be helping me at the moment either,pain levels high despite all the various meds.Also seem to be prone to heat rashes for the first time 🙁

Still plenty to be grateful for, gamble free and off on holiday a week Monday for 2 weeks with my lovely hubby.

The puppy sounds adorable,isnt it amazing the pleasures we suddenly see when the gambling mask is taken off! Real life aint so bad despite the aches and pains, I truly have a sense of belonging which was missing for years.

Have a good weekend my friend,hope you get a respite from the painful spell soon.

love W xxxx

Hi Jac and Jim. Thank you for my lovely post. Just wanted to let you know that I'm around again and have posted a long post on my diary. Won't repeat it here. Just thought I'd let you know. Sending lots of love to you and Jim. God Bless. Charly/ Sabine. xx

Hi Jac

For the record, I know post Gull made wasnt just about me, I was posting reply on behalf of others also.

nutter... you sure your not jeremy vile! lol

Ignore him Jac

He is just lashing out because he hates to see people beating this addiction when he cant do it himself.

Jim (last bet 22/04/06)

The person you refer to has also had things to say to me which I have answered on my own diary. Jim is right--he cannot stand the thought that he is unable to do what many others are achieving. He probably thinks it was easy for us to stop what we were doing---only took me about 37 years!!!!!!

Hi Jackie,

Thank you for the very nice message on my diary.....,your certainly right about Jeremy Kyle,he is an unsavoury character.I hope your health is stable at present,this spell of warm weather is a blessing for you i would think.

The little GSD is probably a bit of a handful i guess,clever breed though, and it doesn't take them long to learn things.Hope you and Jim have a great weekend.

Best thoughts to you,

Seano.

hello Jackie,

Just wanted thank you for all the support you have given me over the last couple of years or so. Your timely and thoughtful comments with a dash of humour help a great deal. Thanks again.. S.A

Jackie,

Just wondering how you are doing... was re-reading my diary and your post.

Hoping that all is well with you and thanks again for your words of encouragement.

Blessings,

Brian