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Hello my name is Nicky and I really could do with some advice.

My Partner has been playing Super Casino on his mobile for over 6 months now on his mobile phone and tablet.
My first signs that something was wrong when he started getting funny over my spending habits and we were getting letters from various people about non payment of bills. All of the ones that he is responsible for. (We split them between us). Then the other day I was alerted by my mobile phone company that I had topped up my data!
He had gone through 2gb in less than 3 weeks where as I use around 200 megabites for the whole month. This is one of the bills that I pay for.
This left me with no option as he wouldn't discuss his money or if there was anything wrong, I no option but to snoop around. I found 6 months of unopened bank statements with over 90% of the transactions going to the app. I was horrified we could have mended our extensions roof with this money. I wouldn't have to make statements to bailiffs as to why we had no tv license etc..... I left these statements in a bag hoping that he would discover what I had done as I felt bad about what I had to do. He did as nothing gets moved without him noticing it.
I obviously was accused of invading his privacy to which I didn't deny and was asked what I had found out. To which I replied you tell me what I found? I must of asked that same question at least half a dozen times before he stated. "I've ******* deleted the app OK! I can take it or leave it. I don't have a problem! " Obviously he does as this was the same statement he made 6 months ago. When he assured me it wasn't a problem and that he was topping up every Friday with £10 and once it was gone he would not play until the following Friday. I thought this reasonable at the time and foolishly believed him.
I have managed to get an over 18 block for data on his mobile thanks to the sympathetic people at EE.
Now I my reality is I've confronted him and he is denying he has a problem. Where do I go from here?
 
Posted : 5th November 2014 12:56 pm
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Hi Nicky,

Welcome to the 'Friends and family' area of the Forum.

It's possible you have already read Rebecca's advice (at the top of the page) entitled 'Support for those affected by problem gambling' - but, if not, that will be a useful starting point.

A chat with one of our frontline advisers will probably also be of value, so please be assured we aim to be understanding and easy to talk to. You can 'phone us for free on 0808 8020 133 between 8am and midnight (or use our Netline service - chatting via text).

I very much sense your frustration over your partner's reluctance to talk things through, but maybe he is not quite yet in 'that place' when motivated to do so. But that's something we can chat about, too.

If, of course, your partner does choose to chat confidentially with us himself, he needs to know we are non judgemental and that we will be happy to listen and advise - even if he is not quite sure what to do or say. Kind regards, Robert (Forum Admin)

 
Posted : 9th November 2014 11:56 am
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