Hi all.
I wanted to update on the situation for those that had taken the time to comment on my previous post and were concerned about my situation. Friday I left my husband. I told the schools what had been happening at home. I was scared as I knew that once I spoke about the abuse (non-violent) that there would be no going back from it and other agencies would be involved. I did it. I went with what I was standing in and my kids and presented as homeless for emergency accommodation from my local housing dept. I was put in a hell hole with no hot water or heating and 3 children....aged 4, 5 & 13....it was filthy, mouldy food in cooker, fridge looked like someone had been sick in it...just horrendous....I got us moved to a marginally better place in a slightly better area with hot water, heating and better furnished. Thankfully we were only there for one night. My husband saw sense and has voluntarily left the property so we can come home. I have his keys. The girls are happier to be home. They have been good and taken it in their strides but it's bound to have affected them emotionally. Only time will tell. I know I've done the right thing. He says he is going to stop gambling and is phoning for an appointment to attend local Aquarius for counselling....he has been on this site for help. Again, only time will tell on this too....its down to him. Only he can do it. I'm worn down emotionally, I would never have done it the way I did if I felt he would leave without a battle but in a way it's better this way, as now there's no more excuses, covering up and hiding what's happening at home and no false promises from him coz I'm done listening. I've told him I don't love him anymore and I'm done trying to battle his addiction. He says all the right things but I don't believe his words any longer so I'm unsure what the future holds, except friendship and co-parenting our children living separately. I have been petrified, depressed, lonely, desperate and a million other things during this weekend....the worst of my life except the weekend my dad died. Thanks for all your support, advice and help...much appreciated. Let's see what happens now.......tbc x
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Take good care of yourself.
CW
Hi there. You have been very brave at taking control of the situation. I wish you all well xx
Many thanks CW and WCID....I know you had commented before on my previous post I think....my brain is a little puddled at present so forgive me if I'm mistaken. I hope things can be better from here on in but as usual, it hangs on him and if he wants to take charge and change it all. Words and promises are all very good but hollow if not followed through.
Good luck S&L, I wish you a happy and loving future with your 3 girls. All the best. X
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