Hi,
I tried to post a post before this so thought Il re write it. Basically I met my partner 3 years old he always had a bet or a go on routelle I never thought he had a problem cos it was a 10 hear and there but recently we had a baby girl. She now 7 months old and me and my partner relationship just become so distant I been blaming myself all my attention and times gone on our little girl but they recently family members have been making comments about how moody and ignorant he become on his phone or horse betting football etc then the past two months he become a whole different person constantly ringing his friends on about betting running to bookies I thought he didn't want me no more not interested snapping mood angry at me I told him we can't afford the bookies and he shouts and screams at me storm out and spend all day in bookies comes home crying cos he lost more money Il love to hear people's experiences
Hi lilmisslost91,
Welcome to the Forum. Sorry it has taken a bit longer for you to receive a reply from us. Well done for coming round to post about what your partner is putting you through.
It is not your fault that your partner is 'snapping,moody and angry', it is wrong that he is treating you the way he is. You have your 7months old daughter to take care of, and he should not be doing that to you. What he is doing to you is emotional abuse and it is wrong, and it has to stop.
You are right in telling him how his gambling is affecting you financially. I am wondering if you have any income coming in to you that you can seperate from his income so that you can be able to take care of yourself and your daughter. There is help for your partner if he wants the help, and until then what you can do is to take care of yourself and be strong enough for your and your daughter. I can hear your concern for him, as he is able to come home and cry to you; That is good as some people have found support from love ones helpful, but you can only help him if he wants the help, and if you are strong enough.
It is good that you have found this forum. There is a lot of support here so you do not have to be alone in putting up with the way your partner is treating you, you can always post and others will reply to support you.
You can also call our Helpline and speak to an advisor in confidence. We give free counselling to gamblers and their love ones, and we can give you counselling if you want to talk to a counsellor about how this is affecting you. Your partner can also receive free counselling from us if he wants counselling.
We are here to support you.
You do not have to be alone in this.
Regards
Forun Admin.
Dear lilmisslost I'm sorry to read your story, it reminds me of when I had my first child. That was a long time ago. You've got yourself and baby to think of. Don't give him any money, secure your money. You can't stop him and he will cause arguments to make you help him or get out of the house. In my experience online betting is the worst. They can run up massive debts. I hope you've got some help since your post on here x
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