Hi all,
So my husband of 5 years (we've been together 13) told me in April that he had a gambling addiction. I knew nothing of it and it came as a complete shock. Fast forward to now, he hasn't gambled since he told me and we are paying off the debts.
The problem is that my trust in him is shattered. I want things to work (partly for our little girl) and I'm glad he hasn't gambled since April. However I've since been diagnosed with depression because of all this, I'm struggling at work and I've had to give up on my part time masters degree.
I'm not sure whether to ask him to move out or will the trust come back? He gets very upset when I tell him I don't trust him, but prior to all this I would have never imagined he would do this to me. I feel like I need to know where he is all of the time, because it's not just gambling I don't trust him about now. The lies he told me to cover up 18 months of gambling make it hard to believe a word that comes out of his mouth now.
Has anyone been able to rebuild the trust?
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Its an important question Sleepless.
Have a read of some of Cynical Wife's and Half Life's posts
I feel exactly the same. My partner tried to kill himself and probably would have succeeded if I hadn't come in. He left us in a position where he gambled all our savings for our future together and our rent money. And then on top of that he tries to kill himself. I'm scared to leave him on his own now. He says he wants to change and that hes excluded himself from sites and that he'll never do anything like this again. How do I know that?! "You just have to trust me" Well...I trusted you last time and we're here again but 10 times worse. I want to give him a chance but I don't know how?!
It's horrendous, that feeling of loving someone unconditionally and them being your entire world but the trust being lost completely.
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