Hi I'm here like many others after my worst relapse.
I got myself an extra 20k in debt this last week. Merry Christmas 🙁
Last year I had a serious gambling and C*****e problem, I would gamble all the time but was relentless while high. I managed to quit I did about 6 months without gambling or coke and the 1 or 2 minor relapse since then was after taking C*****e again. I know I need to never take C*****e again for me to never gamble again so that's what I'm going to do. I had all my debt under control and managed to build some savings as well for a holiday in January and iv spent all the money I can access (20k) I feel so low I didn't want to open my eyes when I woke up this morning. Iv had to order another credit card just to live, I have a well paid job and I'm going to sell my house and clear some of the debt and leave myself enough for a deposit for another house I hope I can come back from this and make myself a success. I can't believe iv done it again I feel so low and ashamed of myself especially this much money. I never get urge anymore generally and strongly against any form of gambling so this is frustrating even more
Mate you can come back from this, I have been where you are right now, I never took drugs when I was gambling, but could easily go through 15 to 20 cans of lager which just makes it 10 times worse, you just place bets which are absolutely insane and anyone in their normal minds wouldn't do, but this is what is does to us, it takes us to levels we never thought possible, but with time it can and will get better, you just got to commit to it and make sure you get all the blocks in place pal, keep strong mate.
I know it's just a set back, a very big set back!!! Worst part is I was up by probably 15k at one point, i know it wouldn't have been good either because I would have reignited the fire and probably would have started gambling regularly again but it surely would be better than this 🙁
Selling your house and clearing debt is not recommended. A clean slate will be great temptation. live with the debt as a reminder, sort out a manageable repayment schedule. This won't disappear with the debt, you have addiction problems and you need to be aware of that and address them accordingly. My husband was the same, well paid job, gambling to extreme. He wanted to sell the house, thank god we didn't because kept on going, unwilling to accept he had a problem.
Merry go round wrote:
Selling your house and clearing debt is not recommended. A clean slate will be great temptation. live with the debt as a reminder, sort out a manageable repayment schedule. This won't disappear with the debt, you have addiction problems and you need to be aware of that and address them accordingly. My husband was the same, well paid job, gambling to extreme. He wanted to sell the house, thank god we didn't because kept on going, unwilling to accept he had a problem.
I agree with this. Keep the debt as a reminder that you have a probelm that needs dealing with. A clean slate will only put the "I've got out of it before and I will again" idea in your head, but you can't. You are addicted to gamblibng and before long you may even lose your home if you run up massive debts again. Good luck.
Merry go round wrote:
Selling your house and clearing debt is not recommended. A clean slate will be great temptation. live with the debt as a reminder, sort out a manageable repayment schedule. This won't disappear with the debt, you have addiction problems and you need to be aware of that and address them accordingly. My husband was the same, well paid job, gambling to extreme. He wanted to sell the house, thank god we didn't because kept on going, unwilling to accept he had a problem.
Hi thanks for the replies, my house already been for sale a few months before this disastrous week. Yes I was still carrying a debt of around 25k from over a year ago when I DID have a massive problem, it was much more than this but I worked my a*s off this year and stayed gamble free for most of it and got things under control. I know it was a problem before and I addressed it and stopped gambling and taking coke to tackle this and it worked!! Or at least until I started using socially again. I really dont think I have a gambling problem now as I never think about it or get the urge to gamble ever on anything. But when I take coke it's like it automatically everything's out of window and I start spending everything I can access until nothing's left!! My plan wasn't to sell to clear debt in the first place before this last week but to put the money into 2 propertys, one to renovate and live in and another rental property, I do nothing but read and research these topics as it is something that really interests me and something I would like to get into. I felt like I was in a good place and things would start to come together over the next few years and now this. So I see my problem is taking coke at all, I think if I never take coke again I will never gamble again as this is the only time I ever think about wanting to gamble now. So my revised plan is still sell my house and find a place to renovate and live and clear SOME of the debt, keep reading and learning and the rental properties will come later when maybe I can release some equity from my new project or have saved up enough for the second property. Let me know what you think guys, I have big goals I aim high to become a success I just hope I can overcome gambling once and for all and I see the key to this for me is to stop using coke all together which I think I will be able to do.
I feel so low and disappointed I haven't left the house all week
I know exactly how you feel. I like you want to actually achieve something with my money instead of having nothing at the end of each month. I’ve decided to set myself some small goals to start with and build on it from there. I even made a list of rewards for myself so I actually have something to show for it at the end of each month. Today is day one gambling free for me like you I relapsed. Hoping this time not to go back. Stay strong and aim high x
Hi there id. , Gambling in it'self is much like C*****e in the way it effects us, the brain chemistry and pathways and the intensity/severity of the addiction. I don't know if gambling or coke addiction takes more cash but what I do know is that even without the coke ... I was and still am the same way with slot play as some are with coke. I can not imagine what you are feeling but it seems you have a good plan. If you address the coke issue and gambling at the same time it'll probably be best because they are so similar... you know this of coarse but I"m just sayin'. Yes, for me depression is still part of the picture. It seems that it's not and won't end up being any easy street but it'll be worth the effort to move on from these addcitions and the consequences we find ourselves in. I'm babbling . Really , I just want to show some understanding and support here. Take care! tara2
Thanks really means a lot people, I hope I can come back here often and hopefully become success and show inspiration to people who are currently feeling how feel right now because I really don't want to share the relapse even with my best friend. My girlfriend and a few close friends knew about the problem last year, I just feel so ashamed now
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