So i had to finally admit to my wife,friends and family last night that i had put myself into a huge financial mess. Gambling was my means of getting out of it. A typical gamblers tale i suppose. Long way to go and at current i have a supportive Wife despite her world coming crashing down. Need to make sure i stay with this as its my last chance before i lose everything!
Hi Winnie well done for coming clean, that's the first step and it's so good your wife is supportive. Do you have next steps in place to make sure you can start your recovery? GA? Counselling? And let her have complete control of the finances.
Good luck 🙂
Hi Emm. Yes finances handed over. Counselling arranged and GA meetings hopefully shortly. Hardest part is dealing with my wifes loss of trust and general not wanting to be anywhere near me but early days yet ..
Hi. I've also had to come clean about my gambling problem today. Got to the stage where it's effecting me mentally. I've got a wife and 2 small children so my guilt is through the roof at the moment due to the financial mess I've got us into. It's got to the point where the only thing that has stopped me from doing anything silly to myself is my kids. Been to the doctors today who's put me on some tablets. This is the start of a very long road to recovery. Not sure what the wife's plan is yet, wouldn't surprise me if she left.
Exactly the same situation. My biggest fear is even if she does stick with me that the trust will never be regained but we shall see. All we can do i suppose is stay off the gambling and put our lives back one little part at a time
Hi Winnie. Hope everything's ok with you today. I've let my family down also. The guilt is awful isn't it? Keep strong and keep gamble free, you will regain your family's trust eventually and you will sort out your finances. As long as you stay gamble free. Hope you've had a good day. X
Hi Winnie
Well done on telling your wife and family. I personally think that was step1 and the most important step for me telling my wife although I am too ashamed to tell anyone else. Others on here are trying to do it on their own and my opinion is they are making it harder for themselves but that is just my opinion and we are all different.
Not sure how any of us can resolve the trust issue. Once trust is lost it is a lot harder to regain. We can sort the practical issues out but this is harder. I guess the main thing is to make sure we stay gamble free as a minimum and give our loved ones as much time and support as they need. Lot easier to write that down than do!
Keep strong and don't forget you are not on your own.
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